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    Here are my top 5:

    • Being on their phone too much.
    • Being willfully ignorant.
    • Believing in religion.
    • Using proprietary social media apps (e.g. Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook).
    • Using non-free BIOS firmware / non-free software.
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    • People who take phone calls with it on speaker
    • People that have anything on speaker while in a public place
    • Wearing “MAGA” clothing
    • Having a cyber truck
    • Leaving large gaps in the drive thru queue
    • People with young children that they dress up like little adults.
    • People who refuse to learn basic tech (email, texting, etc.)
    • Edit: People that don’t like animals, or they dislike just cats. I feel like people who don’t vibe with animals in some way are… Off.

    damn, I’m a judgy bitch

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    Their choices with tech, choices in consumerism (Stanley Cups hype, hypebeast brands, Temu shit, etc), not using blinkers, amount of time spent staring at phones, hobbies

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    The ‘brands’ they are displaying.

    I see people checking me and others out. What runners are they? Jordans or KMart? Is that a Lacoste or walmart? Is that a real Rolex or D&G handbag?

    But for me, it’s not judging them like you think.

    I judge them flashing brands as a sign of insecurity, a need to appear wealthy and ‘fit in’, and a likely ‘keep up with the Jones’ jealous type.

    So, I actually feel sad for them.

    And, yes, I am aware it’s super judgemental and I’m no doubt hypocritical as well, as there are some things I will buy certain brands for.

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      I can relate.

      Everytime I see some Gucci stuff on someone, I feel hard sad for them or sometimes cringe, because all the money they once had, was spent on something worthless in my eyes. They also look more unsympathic by having those brand stuff on them, so its a lot that plays in.

      But if they don’t look entirely iced out, then I mostly don’t even notice that the person has Expensive brand clothes or generally popular brands. I mostly see the overall design or the colors besides the Human and the face. I have my energy somehwere else to invest than thinking on ehat brands someone is wearing. A sometimes I secretly judge if they are trying very hard to be something like iced out. (With iced out I mean, trying to look rich with Gucci clothes or something similar)

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      Difference is between buying a brand for style and buying it for quality.

      Some companies have quietly admitted that the only difference between their stuff and cheap knockoffs is the brand name and it’s fine for them because their customers don’t care.

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      Rich people don’t wear brands. Visible brands are for working class people who want to be rich. It’s the sign of a class traitor.

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    Quite a few;

    literally

    • if one repeats this in 5 seconds in a conversation.

    like

    • not against saying like, but when is used in “describing” you will be judged.

    obvi

    • ugh, I just hate this.

    legit

    • When I hear legit, all I see is insecurities. DO YOUR RESEARCH, TRUST YOUR GUTS.

    And yes, I’m millennial.

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      Ohh I see you’re missing out on the fun side of “legit” Because this is what I am thinking when somebody says “legit”

      Also isn’t it some kind of skateboard term from the 90’s? “Broooo that 720 was legiiit 🤙”

      “Like” is a critical one for me. As a non native speaker it’s just so tempting to use. Like in the above example. I would have 100% introduced that direct speech with Like

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    People being shitty to customer service workers and utility, and people not being courteous to them.

    Heck, I sometimes judge people for not thanking service workers and utility. For example: if a janitor lets you pass a hallway they’ve been busy cleaning, I’d silently judge you if you don’t thank the janitor for letting you pass. Another example is in a fast food setting: if the person on the counter gives you your order, I’d silently judge you if you don’t say “thank you”.

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      If someone is cleaning a floor and I have to walk over it, they’re getting several sorrys and at least 2 thank yous, while I do that shrink my body to the side and putting my palms out towards them like a peasant not trying to be whipped by a landed gentry.

      I’ve mopped professionally. It sucks.

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        Agreed!

        If I were in that situation, I’d profusely apologize for having to pass through, and would give as much thanks as I did apologies after I’m through. I’d also make sure my footwear touch the floor as little as possible (likely by walking on my toes or the sides of my feet), and try to stick as close to the wall as possible. All just so that they can just redo a limited area after I’ve passed through.

        I’ve never done that for a living, but I dread having to clean my room, sweep the floors, mopping it and such. I really feel for those people who had to mop the floors in high-traffic areas.

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      Oh my God my fucking in laws… Literally any amount of poor service or delay and they’re taking a passive aggressive tone with service workers. It’s absolutely insane. Like, no, I do not think this person has personally slighted you, it’s just rush hour and everybody else is also ordering food right now.

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    Using proprietary chat apps like Discord, Telegram, Slack, LINE, Meta’s WhatsApp / Messenger. Still judging on apps that require a SIM & mobile OS (like Android) primary device like Signal… or an expensive chat protocol like Matrix.

    Hosting your code & bug tracker with a propietary forge like Microsoft GitHub when you say you support open source—but don’t even bother to apply the same mentality to your own project.

    …Oh, the question was “secretly”.

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    Not using their turn signals if the only other traffic is pedestrians.

    So many times I’ve been crossing an intersection to the opposite corner where I could cross either street first, so I pick the street that won’t block the car crossing the other way. They’re not signalling so I figure they’re going straight, and cross the other way so they won’t have to wait for me—but seemingly every time it turns out the car was really turning after all. So they’re stuck because they couldn’t conceive of pedestrians as traffic they need to communicate with.

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      I don’t understand how people don’t indicate in general. It’s just so automatic for me, I’d need to make a conscious effort not to.

      Sometimes I accidentally indicate because I’m going around a sharp bend that my brain registers as a corner 😂

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      Not only this annoyance you mentioned, but my personal little saying is that turn signals aren’t just for the benefit of who you see, but more importantly for anyone you don’t see!

      You should have already made sure you’re clear of everyone before you think about leaving your current path. Using the indicator is a preventative measure for the sake of yourself and anyone in a blind spot or that you failed to notice.

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        I once had a passenger criticise me for indicating a turn when there were no others cars around. She said it showed I was driving without thinking, automatically signalling when it wasn’t needed. I think I said something like “fuck you” or maybe “I’ll drop you off here then if you don’t like my driving”. I’m signalling my intentions to the universe! Behold my blinking lights, for I am voyaging leftwards!

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          Stop, you’re being too safe! 😂

          The only times anyone is to be criticized for signally is if it is waaaay before where you’re actually turning so that people think you just bumped the stalk or if you just leave it on and don’t know it.

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      Just not using turn signals in general and lack of road etiquette is enough for me to judge people pretty verbally in my car, though nobody else ever hears it, so I guess it counts as a secret. You’re driving a machine that can kill people out of negligence, the least you can fucking do is show some common courtesy and signal what you’re intending to do with it and what direction you’re going to move. People have more common courtesy when they’re walking on the street and no danger to others, yet they moment they’re behind a wheel and much more dangerous, it’s like they have nothing but middle fingers for everybody else around them.

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    Nosing (instead of reversing) into a parking spot. You always pick the conditions of your arrival, but not always your departure. Also, reversing into traffic is ridiculous and illegal in some places. Parking nose-first is dangerous and lazy.

    EDIT: Love how you’re all justifying your bad driving habits. Camera? Still can’t scan for incoming traffic. Bad weather only on occasion? It’s more than bad weather that can make reversing out of a door dangerous.

    … and I HATE angle parking.

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    Being completely unaware of anyone else:

    • Standing in doorways, using your phone or having a conversation
    • Talking loudly when inappropriate, when I’m in pain at the doctors, I don’t want to hear about your roses
    • leaving your shopping trolley blocking the aisle sideways in the supermarket while looking for your stuff
    • driving down the middle of the road so everyone else has to pull over, when there’s plenty of room for two cars to pass
    • stopping in the middle of the road without indicating, while: looking for your destination, or having a conversation, or deciding what day it is
    • riding your delivery bike down the footpath at high speed weaving between pedestrians

    As Jean-Paul Sartre said, “Hell is other people”.

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      stopping in the middle of the road without indicating, while: looking for your destination, or having a conversation, or deciding what day it is

      That’s my new pet peeve. The thing is I don’t remember seeing people do this in the past and certainly not frequently, but now I see it all the time. Mind-boggling selfishness. I think Covid rotted everyone’s brains way more than we realize.

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        Someone stopped in front of me… on an offramp. Luckily there was nobody behind me to hit me, but that’s an insane place to stop. No hazard lights, no indication. Just stopped.

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          I once got caught behind someone who came to an abrupt stop in a roundabout so they could go to the next episode / video on their iPad that they had attached to their dashboard.

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            I once had someone do an emergency stop in front of me for no apparent reason in the fast lane of a not very busy motorway. I barely managed to stop in time from high speed.

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      I can’t find a source right now, because I just woke up and I don’t want to, so (Trust Me Bro, et al, 2024) but there’s a chance that quote is actually about Nazis!

      A lot of French people referred to them as “the others” and would often speak sort of semi-codedly about them in writing and such so as not to piss off their new overlords. So that line may well not have been “I’m such an introvert that being around other humans is like being in hell” but instead “hell has delivered itself to my doorstep in the form of goose-stepping bastards”

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        That’s not at all what the quote is and neither is the top level commenter’s interpretation, and I think it not being these is pretty obvious if you read No Exit. The point that he was making (and this is putting it crassly because I know jack shit about his Heidegger-based phenomenology) is the presence of other people forces us to be self-conscious, to regard ourselves as the object of someone else’s perception and judgement. That’s why Sartre goes out of his way to say the room (their jail cell in Hell, effectively) had no reflective surfaces, so that the character’s perception of themselves could only come from the people they are stuck with (this doesn’t entirely make sense, but I am pretty sure it’s what he meant). You can read him talk about some of the premises informing this by checking out his writing on “The Look,” like is quoted below this comic.

        So it’s a slightly obtuse point about intersubjectivity that people have turned into a cutesy way of talking about their own misanthropy. It’s probably more emblematic of the meaning of the quote how people in this thread, original commenter especially, are talking about silently judging people for this and that action.

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      • riding your delivery bike down the footpath at high speed weaving between pedestrians

      Gotta include the ones riding at night in black/dark clothes with no reflectors or lights; be it using the crosswalk, against a ‘do not cross’ or in the middle of the [car] lane, ignoring the bike lane.

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    If you cannot chew with your mouth closed and you are older than 6 years, you should not be allowed to vote, operate heavy machinery or have children.

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    “Passive income” if you describe yourself as having a passive income, I want nothing to do with you.

    Passive income is a myth - all income requires labor… if you’re getting income without putting in labor then you’re stealing someone else’s income.

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      You’re heart is in the right place, but your conclusion is wrong. It’s entirely possible to build a passive income without involving anyone else’s labor. Without even getting into things like investment income, which I’m assuming you’ll still attribute to someone else’s labor in the most abstract sense, there are still plenty of ways to do this. I personally lived off mostly passive income for several years when blogging was big. I created a bunch of blogs myself, did all of the development and design myself, managed the servers myself, and wrote all of the content myself. Then I put a few non-intrusive ads on the sites. When they started generating pretty good money, I mostly stopped working on them. They continued generating decent money until social media killed blogging. I still have one of them, and I receive around $60 per month from it despite the fact that I haven’t touched it in over a decade. So, how exactly was/am I stealing someone else’s labor?

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        I created a bunch of blogs myself, did all of the development and design myself, managed the servers myself, and wrote all of the content myself.

        Sure sounds like labour to me.

        And there is no requirement for labour to generate income immediately. A majority of labour is front-loaded, with income being back-loaded.

        I still have one of them, and I receive around $60 per month from it despite the fact that I haven’t touched it in over a decade.

        Server maintenance and updating code to work with current releases is still “labour”. Because sure as shit you’ve been doing these things… no hosting provider is going to let you go 10 years with zero updates or patches to the website or the underlying framework that allows the website to run. Because failing to do that is how entire hosting platforms get rooted and infected with malware.

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          Sure sounds like labour to me.

          Yes, my labor, which resulted in passive income. Nobody is saying that passive income is a magical thing which you just acquire without effort. You invest the effort, and then you sit back and reap the rewards.

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            By your definition game development (in the old style) is also passive income… so is art… so is building a house or a car or pretty much any form of manufacturing.

            These activities all involve building something with no promise of selling it - then trying to find a buyer… in each case you, the producer, are investing up front in a venture which may or may not succeed and then hoping someone will pay you for it.

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              Homebuilding would be active income, since you can only sell each house once. Game development would be a good example for someone like the Minecraft creator. He invested a bunch of time creating this cool game, and then he sat back and got rich. It’s passive at that point (assuming no maintenance, bug fixes, etc.), since he continues to gain sales, despite only doing the work once. The digital realm is full of opportunities for passive income, or at least it used to be. Corporations have essentially shoved individual creators out of the market.

              Edit: I’m aware that the Minecraft creator sold the game, but was using his earlier experiences as an example. I read an interview with him once and he said “I think I was already rich by the time I thought ‘holy shit, I’m going to be rich!’”.

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        I don’t because I’m not working in the US but I do have a retirement fund. I can critize the system we live in and those that revel in exploiting it while also realizing that if I completely eschew investment I’ll be a pauper. I’m not going to bankrupt myself and be unable to afford my partner’s medical expenses to win an argument on the internet.

        I’m aware that the stock market is slicing off income from laborers in an unjust manner - it slices off my income as well… I don’t celebrate participating in this system, but I do participate in it while acknowledging how bad it is. It isn’t a significant portion of my income and if I could personally will it out of existence I would.

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          I think the stock market is fine. It allows the people to own a bit of the companies they work for and buy from.

          I don’t see anything wrong with that in theory.

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            It’s a critical element of the financialization of the economy that has lead to it becoming even more irrational and unstable than it was before. Easy example, look up stock buybacks. It’s not just that though, it’s the entire system of obligation to shareholders to deliver quarterly gains with no concern for employees or even the long-term health of the company.

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      What if I did a bunch of work in the past and I am still getting income from that work, even though I do almost nothing to keep that income coming in now?

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      I make about $1k a month absolutely, completely passively from Amazon. I’ve put in maybe 30 minutes in three years. When I tell people this, they see that passive income is real.

      Then I tell them about the years before that, where I spent every second I had making shirt and book designs. I had made a single sale early on and I saw the potential, so I sunk every godforsaken hour I had to spare (I also worked full time) designing and uploading, researching, networking, and pushing. I gambled, grafted, and earned it.

      It’s absolutely worth the investment, but I only know that now. Back then it was an insane gamble - hundreds of hours of proper work for ???. I stop telling people about my ‘passive’ income now because no one wants to ruin the dream of freeeee money.

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    ‘It has chemicals in it’

    This use of ‘chemicals’ as something inherently bad just makes it sound like they’re parroting some scaremongering tiktok.

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      I had this talk with a member of my family. Water is a chemical, salt is a chemical. Just because you don’t immediately know what it is, doesn’t mean its bad.

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        I’m sure they know, but maybe this is word drift or shorthand for “harmful chemicals”. That’s a lot more plausible than literally turning “literally” into its opposite

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          It’s more of a lack of understanding of chemistry, this chemical compound contains something harmful in another form, but it is completely harmless in the form that it takes in this food or vaccine, etc.