Bubba Copeland shot himself in front of police on Friday, days after he begged 1819 News not to expose his private life.

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    1819 News published the username to Copeland’s Reddit and Instagram accounts, writing that he posed “in various outfits, some more racy than others.” The blog also said that Copeland used the pseudonym “Brittini Blaire Summerlin” and posted pornography and advice on chemically transitioning.

    So he wasn’t just cross-dressing, he was actively interested in transitioning, to the point that he was able to advise others. He also apparently did not have overt anti-LGBTQIA+ values, beyond being a member of the GOP.

    Honestly, I’m sad for him, and for his family who apparently knew and loved him as he was. In a small town, you often don’t get to choose unless you choice involves moving away, and sometimes you just get trapped. I get the sense he was one of these: a good person, trapped not just in the wrong body but in the wrong town, where you’re either a church-goin’ Trumper or openly hated and ostracized.

    I know there will be a lot of cheer about leopard face eating and karmic retribution, but I won’t be joining in this time. If he were full in he’d have made open anti-LGBTQIA+ statements instead of embracing it, albeit anonymously, in his online personas. No leopard here. I feel nothing but sorrow for this man and his family.

    But the rest of the small minded fucks in his small minded town who were laughing and pointing? And the asshole who outed him? Now THAT’S a different story, and I hope their laughter becomes a curse to them.

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      I love what John Oliver said on his segment about I believe Lindsay Graham.

      Paraphrasing, he could have helped usher in the change that would have made his lifestyle more acceptable and more inclusive. But he wanted power.

      These people choose to be a Republican. They choose to associate with a party that is actively trying to eliminate the very people they are and the sad thing is that they think they are the exception. They think the party will accept them.

      And the hard, harsh truth is that they are only accepted so long as it’s convenient. I think he knew this and that’s why he chose to end his life.

      It’s sad that he felt he had to do that. But I’m not holding my breath for the GOP to say that they learned a lesson from it.

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        Being a mayor of a small town and being a US Senator or even House Rep are two very different things. It is very likely that, despite being Republican, he did nothing to further Republicanism with the power that he did have.

        Most of the time, mayors really just do small town mayor shit like approving a tree to be cut down or asking the state for a road to be fixed. They’re not usually involved with politics in the way Lindsey fucking Graham is.

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      He also apparently did not have overt anti-LGBTQIA+ values, beyond being a member of the GOP.

      Yes and (?) was never antisemitic, beyond being member of the nazi party. (???)

      If you are part of a party that stands STAUNCHELY against queers, you don’t deserve solidarity for being queer.

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        You can blame that on the US’s bipartisan system rather than the multiparty system it is supposed to be.

        What other option would he have, the democrats? What if there are things that they did he didn’t agree with either? 3rd party is out the window because it would take minimum 2 elections to get their candidate in office.

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          Oh no, poor guy had literally no choice but to participate in a corrupt system by going into politics and becoming a mayor 😭

          Get the fuck outta here.

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            Ah yes, you shouldn’t go into politics to make the changes you would like to see because the “system is corrupt”

            Man, imagine being that retarded. The forefathers would have never revolted against the British if that logic actually made any sense whatsoever.

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                Whoops! It seems like you may of missed what I wrote, no worries though, I got you covered.

                Ah yes, you shouldn’t go into politics to make the changes you would like to see because the “system is corrupt”

                Man, imagine being that retarded. The forefathers would have never revolted against the British if that logic actually made any sense whatsoever.

                Fighting evil with evil doesn’t make you a good guy. Don’t be evil, you can defeat fascists while still being a decent human being.

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          Plenty of options. Didn’t have to be a shaman, didn’t have to live in a sheit tier state, didn’t have to run for public office, didn’t have to support the GOP. He went up to the leopard and screamed “eat my face”.

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            I mean, he was 62 years old you know, not like he could just turn his life around on a dime given the position he was in.

            The dude was not hurting anyone. He clearly wanted to help operate the city, you have zero chance of winning with the democratic party in the vast majority of deep south states. Being a part of a party does not mean you believe in every single view that someone in your party holds, why do you think half the GOP is trying to get rid of Trump?

            And would you stop with this leopard eating shit? I have read it here like 40,000 times. Suicide isn’t a joke, this is borderline not even a story about politics FFS. Save it for actually funny shit.

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              Boy that leopard is getting fat. Must be from all the faces it is eating. He fed the leopard for fucking decades.

              You really think his church gives a shit? I bet during their weekly pretend time this morning they were celebrating.

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                Did I say anything about a church?

                Are you an actual human being? I don’t give a shit about the church, I don’t give a shit about religion in general at all actually.

                The fact you mentioned that raises my suspicion that you are a bot or something

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                  I am mentioning the church. He was a leader for a denomination of Christianity infamous for the degree of its anti-LGBT stances. Decades feeding the hate machine. And I bet you anything that today they those people who said a thousand good morning to him are happy that he killed himself.

                  The final unavoidable conclusion of Christianity is to kill its own.

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        Would you blame a secret jew for jojning yhe Nazi party if that was a way of keep away from a concentration camp?

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      Stop white washing this shithead. He was a horrible person who was perfectly fine persecuting others BUT THE FUCKING IMSTANT IT CAME BACK ON HIM HE OFFED HIMSELF.

      THIS WAS NOT A GOOD PERSON, CLOSET LGBTQ OR NO.

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        You got a source for that, besides simply being a member of the GOP in s location where there is no plausible alternative?

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          no plausible alternative?

          Are you kidding me!? “He had to be part of the anti-LGBTQ party because of where he lived”. Fuck out of here with that nonsense. I deleted my longer comment, let me sum it to for you:

          • He didn’t have to live in Alabama
          • He didn’t have to be part of the anti-LGBTQ+ (or any) party
          • He didn’t have have to run for political office
          • He didn’t have to engage in crossdressing

          If any of those conflict with each other, well; life is about choices. Anything less is cowardice.

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            Get a grip. I asked for a source that the person, who you all are celebrating the suicide of, was actually a terrible person or partook in the persecution of others.

            That was the assertion that I was responding to, and none of that was mentioned in any source in this thread besides wild assumptions by people simply for being in the republican party in a small town.

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              None of those words backs up your assertion, which was that there was “no plausible alternative” to being a GOP politician in Alabama. You can’t defend it because it’s complete nonsense.

              Also, I didn’t celebrate his death, and I haven’t seen anyone else do so either…

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              Meh sometimes people just hate someone for not understanding them. And that’s enough. You don’t always need to pretend to have a good reason for hating someone, you just decide and then one day someone asks you why, like asking about babies crying in Africa, people often prefer not to have their beliefs challenged or broken to pieces by any kind of paradigm shift

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              This person partook in the persecution of others. proof? they were in the GOP. there’s your proof.

              And nobody is celebrating suicide. This person is not a hero is all that is being said.

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                Is it implausible that perhaps this person wished to hide within the GOP to escape its suspicions about their personal life? A Democrat mayor in a deeply Republican area would attract a lot of distrust and hostility simply by virtue of being a Democrat. A Republican mayor, not so much.

                Is every trans person morally obligated to leave every institution that persecutes them? Even when to do so would scrutiny?

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                You heard it here folks, association by organization means you did the same thing some other shitheads did.

                The secretaries for concentration camps? They gassed the Jews themselves, might as well have anyways, based on that logic.

                Let’s take it even further, all Germans are bad because of what Hitler did to the Jews, after all, they are ASSOCIATED with the SS, being in the same country and culture and all, they all obviously have symmetrical views because all people really believe the same thing even in a party such as the GOP.

                (Don’t you dare try to pretend those analogies flew over your head, work with me here)

                Grow up, it’s not about him “being a hero”, nobody here is claiming that. The fact you came to that conclusion somehow on your own is evidence enough that you are celebrating his death. Have some respect, it seems pretty clear to me that he had second thoughts atleast some point in his life about his political decisions, had no way out, and when someone threatened to take even that away, made the last mistake you can ever make on your own accord. Please have some respect just as you would wish for yourself.

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                  (Don’t you dare try to pretend those analogies flew over your head, work with me here)

                  lmao I loved this part.

                  You have a good point, I’m starting to think I was in a hateful mood yesterday. I still don’t think this person was a hero but it’s truly very sad that they had to hide this part of their life, and were so scared of the public’s opinion that they killed themselves.

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          If you choose to part of an organization dedicated to dominance at other’s expense you’re not a good person.

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    Also a pastor, “shot himself in front of police during a welfare check.” It also appears that his wife was aware and involved with the hobby (not with the suicide), presumably in a supporting way.

    I may disagree very strongly with this guy’s politics, but fuck the assholes who make this shameful.

    @Poutinetown quotes from the article:

    … even though it does not appear [Copeland] had taken any public positions against LGBTQ issues that could be construed as hypocritical.

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        The blog reported that Copeland, a Republican, confirmed that the accounts were run by him, saying they were a “hobby” he used for “getting rid of stress.” 1819 News reported that Copeland asked them to not out him, but they did so anyway, even though it does not appear he had taken any public positions against LGBTQ issues that could be construed as hypocritical.

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          even though it does not appear he had taken any public positions against LGBTQ issues that could be construed as hypocritical.‘’

          Being GOP and anywhere on the LGBTQIA spectrum is inherently hypocritical.

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        'Ol Bubba knew the wolves would turn on him.

        But anyway, what is with this. Is it that this secretive cross-dressing thing seems correlated with repressed sexual desires or what?

        JCS covered that one Canadian colonel serial killer who would cross-dress, sneaking into women’s homes.

        Then I just watched this 48 Hours case about a dad who killed his son after they found pictures of him cross-dressing and literally eating his own shit.

        Wtf?

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          People tend to sexualize the taboo. In a society where gender is seen as set in stone and comes with a bunch of stupid bullshit like what clothes it’s socially acceptable to wear some people will sexualize violating the taboos

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          Alright, not gonna lie that last one threw me for a loop.

          Pretty sure it was the last part that caused him to do that, I think the gap between crossdressing and scatophagy (is that a word yet?) is pretty far.

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      You’d think some empathy would be in order. However, judging from the comments made on the bird website, many people are actually proud of this happening.

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      This is tragic but I feel like shaking the people trying to shame or guilt the ones who outed and ridiculed the Mayor.

      “Are you happy now?”

      Yes, of course they are. The cruelty is the point.

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    Do we know if he was anti-trans? It’s super sad that he had to actually kill himself because he couldn’t be himself. The GOP has created a really shitty life for a lot of people.

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      He’s conservative and even had a meeting with Trump. That’s the worst of it I think, he was ok with persecuting trans people till he was outed.

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            It’s basically the same as how Drag Queens aren’t trans. They aren’t fully conforming to the idea of being a ‘woman’, just the fashion and expression of it. Many prominent drag figures use she/her pronouns while in drag but immediately switch back to he/him when out of drag.

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            Here are the Google definitions

            Transgender - denoting or relating to a person whose gender identity does not correspond with the sex registered for them at birth.

            Transvestite - a person who dresses in clothes primarily associated with the other sex (typically used of a man).

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            Crossdressing and/or drag is you like to be outwardly a woman/other gender. Trans is you ARE a woman. Full stop. Your meat suit just happens to not agree with it, thus the term gender dysphoria.

            Note: I do not speak for a trans people. Nothing is black and white. This is just how I understand it best and figured it got the point across.

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              FYI, I am looking to learn and not state anything as fact here. I am just going to explain my current understanding and if it is incorrect, please correct me.

              I think gender dysphoria just describes any feelings of distress and anxiety caused by suppressing the feelings of actual gender identity. The disconnect between mind and body may not always be traumatic.

              So, if a trans woman has fully embraced being a woman in all aspects of life with no second thoughts, gender dysphoria may not be an issue.

              However, if a trans woman feels socially pressured to maintain the lifestyle of a man, that could be a source of stress, anxiety and initial confusion.

              There are probably millions of nuanced scenerios that do, or, do not result in gender dysphoria. However, it has been my experience that most people who are anti-trans use gender dysphoria as a generalized blanket term. (Obviously, that doesn’t mean that anyone who used the term is anti-trans, but just covering that base regardless.)

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              Trans is you ARE a woman.

              You think you are.

              You where born in the wrong body but the technology isn’t there yet to change that fact. That’s why it’s still called Transgender. if you could just switch Cis bodies I’m not sure anyone wouldn’t try it out.

              I’m with famous cross dresser Barry Humphries in considering gender affirming surgery self mutilation, but at the end of the day it’s none of my or anyone else’s fucking business what someone does with their own meat suit.

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            Maybe this will help?

            Crossdressing and drag are related to gender expression. Cis and trans are terms relating to a person’s gender identity and may or may not align with gender expression.

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            By no means am I an expert, especially on the intricacies of being trans and I don’t want to cis-splain their experiences, but I do know that cross dressing has an overlap of necessity with them, but it’s a ven-diagram/intersection rather than a circle.

            People who are trans typically explain it as having always felt like they’ve always been in the wrong gendered-body. Wearing clothes that correspond to the gender they feel they are
            (also, keep in mind MRI’s have shown brain activity that more closely matches the gender they feel they are than the gender they were born with, as well) is way for them to try and reconcile the way they feel with the way they were born. It’s usually an early stage in socially transitioning, whether they later choose to chemically/medically transition or not (and keep in mind, this is not always the end goal for people … simply being acknowledged as the way they see themselves is enough for some people and they shouldn’t be afraid to be in public because of that!).

            People who cross dress on the other hand may be doing it because they’re trans and feeling out the early stages OR … just because. It could be the way a textile feels, it could be sexual, it could be non-sexual, it could be because they just like it, it could be because … you see where I’m going with this? There are as many reasons that people cross dress as there t-shirt designs (I may be exaggerating a bit with that one, but you get my meaning, I think).

            I know NOFX is problematic, but I feel like “I’m a Transvest‐Lite” explains it decently (for one particular person anyways!):

            I’m not transgender, I’m a lazy crossdresser
            Who thinks makeup is too much of an ordeal
            I paint my toes and wear shiny tight clothes
            Not for the look, but how it makes me feel
            I don’t need things just right, I’m a tranvest-lite
            I only shave to do the Time Warp midnight Saturday
            I’m done with self-pity, I don’t have to feel shitty
            'Cause I wanna look pretty, so I give it the old city College try
            Don’t get me wrong, I still wanna be a guy
            Who sometimes likes to dress like a girl
            (He sometimes likes to wear diamonds and pearls)
            Don’t think I don’t know I’m not fooling anyone
            (He’s a cross between Adele and Charlie Chaplin)
            You gotta know it’s not just girls who just wanna have fun!

            Also, the beginning of the song is about the shame felt early on about it and is generally about getting the courage to not give a flying fuck about what people think.

            Hopefully I did a decent enough explanation without trampling on anyones lived experiences. The simple truth is that both groups of people have completely individualized experiences and it’s a different journey for every single person.

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        Did you even read the article? It’s specifically says that he was supportive of trans people.

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          I feel pity for this person, they deserved better.

          That said. You cannot be supportive of LGBT people, and vote for the Republican party. Republicans are quite openly hostile to LGBT people, both in rhetoric and in policy. You can’t say you are supportive of a group while voting to strip them of their legal recognitions and protections.

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            I agree with your comment, and I don’t think you’re saying otherwise. But definitely important to note that a lot of LGBT+ folks start off on the wrong side because of how they were raised, religion, etc. and the internal trans/homophobia that causes.

            That said, there are also though a sizeable number of LGBT+ “one of the good ones” who think their support of republicans will keep them from being targeted by the laws they want to introduce (it won’t. This case itself is proof of that.)

            I think that’s the important lesson to learn here for anyone voting republican and being a part of the LGBT community. The people you are voting for will not let you be just because you’re voting for them.

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            Did you read the article? He literally spoke with people online about how to transition and such. That is supporting them.

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              So telling someone what dose of estrogen to take makes up for voting to oppress people? Throwing someone a rope while kicking their head is not support.

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                  He did his job as a Republican politician, so I pretty much do. Or do you suppose he voted Democrat or did not do his job?

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            I take small umbrage with the idea that you cannot support LGBTQ people and vote in a way that doesn’t support your personal beliefs.

            We are all of us paradoxical and hypocritical. Maybe they weren’t pro-republican they were anti-democrat. I don’t fucking know.

            That aside, I get what you’re saying, but your political stance is not the end all and be all of who you are, and as the Republican party has proved beyond any shadow of any doubt being hypocritical is the name of their game.

            This one person could have been very pro-trans and yet still support the Republican agenda in every other way.

            Plus, we don’t know if they were pro-trans or LGBTQ, all that we know is that they were not publically anti-trans.

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              I take small umbrage with the idea that you cannot support LGBTQ people and vote in a way that doesn’t support your personal beliefs.

              I don’t care.

              You cannot vote to make someone’s life measurably worse, and claim to support them.

              That’s not my “personal beliefs”, this is people’s lives and wellbeing.

              We are all of us paradoxical and hypocritical.

              That is fair. And that is why I pity this person. And why I’m not talking about Leopards Eating People’s Faces. This person was clearly troubled.

              That doesn’t change what I’m saying though. I’m not trying to morally judge this individual with what I’m saying. All I am saying is that the net effect of the actions of someone who votes Republican, is not supportive of LGBT people, regardless of their personal beliefs.

              Maybe they weren’t pro-republican they were anti-democrat. I don’t fucking know.

              That’s worse. You understand how that’s worse, right?

              This one person could have been very pro-trans and yet still support the Republican agenda in every other way.

              Human rights are pretty much a deal-breaker. Or at least they should be.

              Plus, we don’t know if they were pro-trans or LGBTQ, all that we know is that they were not publically anti-trans.

              You have misinterpreted my comment. I’m not trying to judge this person.

              I’m making a general statement that it is not possible to support a demographic while simultaneously voting to take away their legal recognitions and protections.

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          For some people, there are only ever two sides, one all good, one all bad and there can not be people in-between or on each side that aren’t 100% a walking trope integrated with all traits of the “side”. It’s quite sad really.

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            We seriously need to do away with our two party system. Everything wrong with the country and the division is due to that. Ranked choice voting needs to be a priority.

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        The trump meeting was because his town was badly hit in a natural disaster, not necessarily something that he would have sought kut

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      Reading other articles it seems like no, he was generally very positive and encouraging to others online. The impression I get (from 10 minutes of reading, not saying this conclusively) is that he was not overtly hostile whatsoever to trans people.

      There are enormous social pressures in small conservative towns, and the man was 63. I can imagine life leading someone otherwise pro-trans into being a republican preacher in that environment. An awful tragedy

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      it does not appear he had taken any public positions against LGBTQ issues that could be construed as hypocritical

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          I would imagine that becoming mayor in certain parts of the country is much easier if you’re a member of the dominant party in the region.

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            Or existing in society at all. Sometimes in those parts of the country the first question upon meeting someone is “what church do you go to”.

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              No, he didn’t. But people get to want things. Sometimes they want things for themselves, sometimes they want things for their communities.

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          You can disagree with your party on one issue. There are tons of Democrats who are opposed to increased gun control, for example.

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            But it’s not just “an issue”. We are talking about a demographic and their legal recognition. No I’m sorry but we cannot agree to disagree on something so fundamental as equal treatment of people.

            It’s not comparable gun control.

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              I’m talking about whether people are physically capable of breaking with their party on a single issue. They obviously are.

              Gallup poll

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            Disagreeing on policy is one thing; disagreeing on human rights is another. You cannot be a Republican and have respect for queer rights at the same time. It has to be a 100% deal-breaker.

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              I’m not sure what you’re talking about. There are tons of Republicans who support gay rights in some fashion, even if it’s not a majority position within the party.

              Gallup poll

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                No, there are precisely zero Republicans who support gay rights. What you’ve cited is a poll showing some who claim to, but are lying. Their deeds, not their words, prove their true intentions.

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            How likely are those Democrats to get bullied to the point of suicide if their “secret” of being against increased gun control was to come out? Or to preemptively commit suicide in anticipation of the bullying they’re going to receive?

            This is not the same thing. Democrats are, generally speaking, flexible about a lot of their positions. It’s how they wind up with problem members like Manchin and Sinema. The Republican party is very different.

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              That’s not the right comparison. He didn’t commit suicide because he was ashamed of supporting gay rights, he was ashamed of wanting to cross dress and of having engaged in the activity. Regardless of politics, that’s a pretty uncommon behavior. Most people don’t want other people to know they’re a sexual deviant of some kind. I’d guess that this behavior is much more maligned in conservative circles than liberal or left, for sure, but the point is that it’s not just the breaking from the standard beliefs of that side.

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                I’d guess that this behavior is much more maligned in conservative circles than liberal or left

                And that, right there, is exactly my point.

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      The GOP has created a really shitty life for a lot of people.

      It’s a feature, not a bug.

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      He was a Republican so yes he voted repeatedly to hurt LGBTQ people AS LONG AS IT WASNT HIM

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      If you read the article, it said, about halfway through, that he never spoke up on LGBTQ issues despite being a Republican.

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      It says he hasn’t posted or supported anything publicly so he wasn’t a hypocrite, he belonged to the wrong party though, I do feel bad for his family because he doesn’t seem to be a right wing asshole

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    I think it’s a good reminder that one of Hitler’s closest “friends” and instrumental in the rise to power of the nazi party, was executed in the night of the Long knives. Ernst Rohm was publicly known to be gay. Due to this close relationship with Hitler, they determined it would weaken Hitler’s image.

    Copeland certainly won’t be the last GOP casualty due to their bigoted policies.

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      Well, the fact that he was gay is perhaps a sidenote to the internal power struggle in the nazi Party, and the struggle between the SA and the SS. Hitler stayed in power by playing the people beneath him against each other, and Himmler was particularly ruthless in this regard to the very end of WW2.

      Did not help Röhm that he was gay tho’

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        this wouldn’t be the first comment thread to speculate about the gayness of Nazis and Hitler, but i’m here for it

      • I can’t speak to Copeland’s character, but regardless, I think you misunderstood what OP was saying. There was zero attack on Copeland. They were drawing a parallel between Hitler’s peeps being homophobic to the point that they executed a close ally for being gay so as not to ruin Hitler’s image, and the Republican party outing this man for cross dressing, which led to his suicide.

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    What a waste. Regardless of his political affiliations, it’s sad that someone got bullied so hard that they decided to take their own life. It’s what we fight for in the LGBTQ community and beyond- so nobody feels that their life is over if discovered. Nor should it be a big deal, regardless. It’s what we’ve been fighting for since the Lavender Scare, and we’ll keep fighting for a general sense of normalcy for everyday Americans, regardless of political orientation.

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      I just imagine him being so conflicted about what he wanted for himself and what he thought reality would allow that killing himself made more sense then living ostracized. He must of truly believed the goodness of people is limited to what the majority find socially acceptable.

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    This comment section is hilarious. Some people are praising his suicide simply because he was a part of the republican party, while others are saying that “no one deserves being bullied for being trans” yet what everyone seems to miss is this guy was a grade A pervert who was posting pictures of real children in his transition fetish memes that he posted online. He also stalked a local business woman and wrote erotica about taking over her life and becoming her through hormones and surgery then murdering her and replacing her. A real woman btw.

    So much cognitive dissonance in this thread and I’m here for it.

    Read up what he did here https://1819news.com/news/item/to-say-i-was-a-stalker-would-be-a-bit-of-an-understatement-curvy-transgender-smiths-station-mayor-copeland-wrote-fiction-about-murdering-real-life-local-businesswoman-assuming-her-identity

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      You posted the same article multiple times in this thread. I don’t know that magazine but Wikipedia says about the source

      1819 News is an American far-right[1] news website that focuses on the state of Alabama.

      Aren’t there more trustworthy articles than a far right news site?

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      I haven’t noticed a single person praising this persons death. It seems you really enjoy the website the news came from though. Another poster says they’re extreme right wing garbage. You also act as if you have a personal stake in the destruction of this persons reputation. Granted he had some immoral fantasies and bullying LGBT while being trans. He was definitely terrible and I’m not trying to defend him, but What’s your horse in this race?

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      You probably shouldn’t read Steven King with that logic. Fiction is fiction. Unless you want to punish for a thoughtcrime.

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      The Left:

      1. Slurs are bad
      2. Transphobia is bad
      3. Ableism is bad
      4. Restorative justice is better than retributive justice
      5. Move people left
      6. Disregard points 1-5
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    Hours before Copeland’s death, Hemant Mehta, who runs the popular religion blog Friendly Atheist, noted that Copeland did not appear to have bigoted views toward transgender people or people who simply enjoy cross-dressing.

    “There’s a story making the rounds about an Alabama preacher/mayor who secretly dresses in drag and adopts the persona of a trans woman on social media,” Mehta tweeted. “The problem? It’s not clear he’s a hypocrite. If he’s not a bigot, why is he being outed?”

    https://www.mediaite.com/news/mayor-commits-suicide-after-conservative-website-publishes-photos-of-him-in-womens-clothing/

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      Mehta tweeted. “The problem? It’s not clear he’s a hypocrite. If he’s not a bigot, why is he being outed?”

      Maybe we shouldn’t be outing anyone. One’s personal sexuality isn’t anybody else’s business. Even if one is a bigot.

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        I think there is a good argument to be made for outing someone closeted who is using their power to oppress LGBT+ people, but there is also a trend of labeling any homophobic politician as being in the closet when a lot of them are just plain old bigots.

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        nah, if you’re an elected political official with power over other peoples lives, and you’re a bigot, it’s open fuckin season, and i’d recommend outting every single last goddamned one of them

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            All Republicans are hypocritical bigots, by definition. It’s the core of their political party, it’s who they signed up to be identified with, it’s who they are, or in the case of this poor bigoted fuck, were. I don’t want to see any “but this was a nice republican” bullshit. After the Southern Strategy in 1964, all Republicans are trash, every single one.

            Institutionalized racism, misogyny, homophobia, and white Christian separatism as party platform. No matter how “conservative” Republicans claimed to be, The Southern Strategy was the core value and singular driving force for the past 60 years. MAGA isn’t a symptom, it’s result.

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              Maybe the politicians, I could agree with that, but most Republican voters are not on board with the southern strategy and all of this other stuff.

              All the majority know is that they hate Democrats, and that is why they vote the way they do. Human beings are creatures of habit after all.

              Besides, even if a group of people are doing bad things en masse, it’s ultimately counterproductive to lump the followers in with the leaders. It makes it harder for the followers to break from the leaders that are leading them down the wrong path.

              I am anti-republican politics, and I don’t get along with Republican voters, but I’m not going to call the guy at the gas station evil because he votes Republican because his dad voted Republican because his dad voted Republican.

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                “They don’t know what they’re voting for” is not a defense, frankly. If you’re truly ignorant of what a party stands for and you just can’t bring yourself to vote for their opponent, maybe don’t vote at all?

                If you vote Republican then you are “on board” with the southern strategy and all of this other stuff. That’s what voting signifies, that’s the whole point of voting. It’s a binding statement to the world that you want the person or group you’re voting for to be in charge, and in the case of Republicans we know very well what them being “in charge” entails.

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                They aren’t evil, doesn’t stop them being ignorant, stupid, wrong, and detrimental to society. Ebola isn’t evil, but it’ll fuck up your life if you don’t kill it first.

                Republican voters are cancer, they might not want to kill you, but they will.

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                I didn’t vote for the Nazis to kill the Jews, I just wanted my taxes lowered :(

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          Out the ones that could be a part of the ones who could effect change so they can be ousted and replaced by another run-of-the-mill Republican demon. Smart. Real big-brained move.

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        Mmmmmmmm… No, you know what? fuck that. You don’t get to be a bigot and then expect privacy in your own life. Response to even if one is a bigot

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        Imagine outing someone as straight. Essentially it’s a weird attempt to enforce a degree of group think

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      That’s the biggest problem with religion and hypocrisy. You’re all right being against everything that doesn’t concern you personally but as soon as it does suddenly it’s a problem.

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      “The problem? It’s not clear he’s a hypocrite. If he’s not a bigot, why is he being outed?”

      Because every issue has exactly two sides nowadays. And this guy uses twitter, so he should have noticed that by now.

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        That quote is ignoring the fact that it was his fellow conservatives who went after him to destroy his life. It is his fellow conservatives – the ones he chose to stand among and support – that enjoy this outcome.

        You cannot be surprised when bullies bully. And the people who hang out with bullies because it benefits them to do so? They are also bullies.

        And unfortunately, I think that’s exactly why you’re wrong. The issue isn’t partisanship. The issue is bigotry. These people outed him because they hate and want to destroy LGBT people. There’s no shades of grey here. There is no moderate position. This story happened even with no one from the opposite partisan position being involved.

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          And he participated in that bullying for years himself.

          This guy was those guys. Dressing in drag doesn’t give him a pass.

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    Really sad that he didn’t feel it was ok to be himself and chose to end his life.

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      I don’t think he killed himself because he wasn’t accepting of himself, but because he was being tormented and ridiculed and had his entire life turned upside down for who he was. Big difference.

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      It was not because he was “wearing woman’s clothing” he wrote grotesque fanfiction about them using their real name about him stalking a local business woman and assuming her identity. He also posted pictures of kids to porn sites. He was not just some closted transgender person.

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        Is there any verification or evidence of this or is it simply more of the drag queens = pedophiles rhetoric?

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    Guys, he not only was a Republican, he was a Baptist preacher. He aligned himself with these two LGBTQ hater groups.

    Maybe he joined the GOP and the Baptist denomination in an attempt to shield his lifestyle, but he willingly belonged to these two groups which both actively HATE LGBTQ and condemn his very lifestyle.

    I have a lot of sympathy for people who feel they must disguise their true selves in order to protect themselves…and I respect that he tried to reach out and offer support to others online.

    But I’m hearing some very disturbing ‘rumors’ that he posted hateful, stalking, character assassination of particular people online. And accusations of child porn.

    I’m going to reserve my sympathy for him for now, until the whole truth is known.

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      I was thinking “Maybe he was more moderate or even liberal, but just knew there’s no getting elected without an ® in small town Alabama politics, and so ran as a Republican anyway.” The inverse happens in our town - we’re so blue, we occasionally get conservatives running as Democrats just to have a shot.

      But then he ran for re-election in 2020 and used publicity of him and Trump together to get re-elected, which is farther than any actual moderate would go. So he’s either a massive hypocrite to the LGBT community or a massive hypocrite to the Conservative community, but either way, wasn’t super bright if he was posting all this publicly to Reddit as an elected figure. Shame he felt the need to shoot himself. Could have just moved to a blue state.

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    I hate Republicans for all they do and stand for, but nobody kills themselves just for fun. This guy was mentally ill (aside from being in the GOP) and got pushed over the brink by an asshole.

    You don’t have to be sad about his death, but suicide is not normal and should never be encouraged like some here basically do.

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      While I agree that suicide should never ever ever be encouraged. I don’t think it’s necessarily a mental illness. This person was going to or already had lost everything they had ever known and worked for. They would have been a pariah in their town. They very likely would have been disowned by family and friends. It’s a little late in life to be starting all over somewhere new. I don’t think it’s crazy to contemplate unconventional exit strategies in that case.

      Source: I am from small rural town Alabama.

      I also think that we should remove the negative stigma behind suicide. After all, even bringing it up with a mental health professional can and will get you essentially arrested for 48 to 72 hours which discourages people from seeking help.

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        Also, can we just acknowledge how fucked up it is that this person felt they had no other way to deal with the situation, all because a group of people cared what clothes he wore in private.

        I get that he decided to be part of this group, but even still… No one deserves that.

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        Hey! One quick correction - I’m currently a therapy student. You are correct that if a therapist thinks you are in imminent danger of suicide, you can be detained for a period of time for your own safety. But we are taught only to do that if the danger is imminent. If you are just depressed and occasionally have suicidal ideation, but likely will not act on it immediately, a good therapist would not have you detained. That would be counterproductive.

        Definitely just be super blunt and honest with your therapist. They are trained to handle things appropriately. You might hear about shitty therapists occasionally, but most of us are really well trained and really want the best for people.

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        I didn’t say suicide always happens, because you are mentally ill. You are twisting my words to suit your argument, maybe unintentionally. There is good reasons why people want to die, e.g. when they suffer from an illness that is only going to cause pain and suffering and want to go on their own terms.

        I am not and was never in his head, but I am quite positive he didn’t suddenly develop, let’s say relatively severe Alzheimer’s disease and wanted to die why he still had controll over his life.

        And yes, suicide should be allowed in my opinion as well. You should be the one who decides when and how you go. I agree with you insofar.

        Though mental health professionals don’t admit you against your will, because it is a fun joke to them, but because the vast majority people are mentally ill when they are contemplating suicide. It is not a normal thing to want to die.

        I don’t know how things are where you live, but in my tiny spot of the world people usually don’t get admitted against their will because of suicidal tendencies, but chose to after they talked to a mental health professional. You usually only get admitted against your will here, when e.g. police, firefighters and/or medical services had to talk you down or save you from an attempted suicide attempt. If that is not the case in your small town in rural Alabama, then you should inform yourself as well as possible and try to teach others about a better alternative. Just my two cents on your comment.

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          I apologize if i misunderstood what your comment said it’s late and I’ve had , well, a day. I wasn’t trying to twist your words. So, I do apologize for that.

          In my experience getting locked up for talking about suicide is subjective. What is serious to one mental health professional may not be serious to another. So, you never really know if you are crossing a line or not. I’ve always felt like it’s best to just avoid the subject all together. But in my experience it keeps me from building a relationship with the therapist. It says to me that there are things that are ok to talk about and things that are not.

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        Are you trying to make a case that suicide can be a well reasoned and appropriate solution?

        Euthanasia might be appropriate in the context of some medical illnesses, but I think there’s very few people that would agree that suicide is a reasonable course of action when one encounters challenges like that described here.

        I’ll just pull you up on some of the phrasing or terms you’ve used. I’m not trying to be an ass, I’m just concerned at the way you’re phrasing things and maybe you don’t realise?

        He hasn’t “lost everything”. Sure I’m sure he’s lost his current position and standing with some political parties, but he still has whatever wealth he had, and given his experience can probably look forward to a lucrative career in some kind of political support role in another state.

        A “pariah” is an outcast. He might have found it hard to make eye contact with some people at the shops but he wouldn’t have been banned from entering the city.

        He may have been “disowned” but some of his friends, but not all of his friends and family.

        It’s never too late to move and turn the page on a new chapter. He wouldn’t be “starting over” he would be making a change and continuing on.

        Additionally, the term “crazy” doesn’t help anyone. People who are clinically depressed and suicidal are not “crazy”.

        Words and phrasing is important and means things, whether you realise it or not your phrasing and framing is very catastrophic or black and white. Life happens in the grey.

        Finally, you absolutely can talk to a mental health professional about thoughts of suicide, and they’re not going to lock you up. Usually the barrier beyond which someone needs to be detained is when they’re an “imminent risk to themselves or others”. There’s a whole spectrum from “wonders whether suicide is a solution” to “likely to harm themselves today” and in most of that spectrum locking someone up is not the right solution.

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      1 year ago

      I don’t know.

      It seems to me that when objectively bad people take themselves out of the equation then it’s a net positive for everyone.

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        Yeah, for example convicted pedos have a higher suicide rate than the average - I don’t think most people believe that is a statistic we should work on changing.

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          I think that is a statistic we should work on changing. There is still a lot research to be done, but it is possible that poedophilia is not so different fron being sexually attracted to people of your own gender. Your brain is just wired differently, in the case of pedophilia wrong. But you don’t exactly get to pick if and how you are born.

          Societies outlaw living out these sexual desires for obvious reasons, which (in better parts of the world) obviously don’t apply if you on the other hand e.g. have consensual sexual experiences between two adults of the same sex.

          Obviously sexual acts between adults and kids are not okay, no argument there. That is why we outlaw it, rightfully so. We can, (usually want) and definitely should protect all babies, childen and young adults in our societies. Doesn’t mean you are a waste of oxygen if you have pedophilic urges, but don’t act upon them. There is also without a doubt a higher rate of suicides among those people. It is not a net positive.

          The human sex drive is very strong, so despite having rules against non consensual or considered unacceptable sexual urges, people live those out. Sexual harassment is a better example for this.

          My hope would be that someday we can somehow effectively help people who are sexually attracted to babies, kids and underage people without incarceration. There is already drugs that can supress any kind of sexual desire. We just don’t do enough research on this topic, because helping people struggling with pedophilic thoughts (especially those not having done anything wrong and never choosing that life) is a very unpopular topic. So we rather avoid it.

          That goes for a lot of other mental illness like narcissistic or psychopathic disorders that tend to cause harm if lived out as well.

          Not helping people afflicted by what we consider malfunctions of the human brain and letting them slide into more mental health problems, which might ultimately lead to their suicide is NOT a net positiv, is is a net negative. Always will be, unless you got your priorities wrong or can’t feel empathy.

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            My statement wasn’t about what’s “morally right”, it was an example of a suicide that the average person will consider a net gain for society.

            A civilized society should obviously not have as its’ goal to make parts of its’ inhabitants kill themselves - the podcast that I got the statistic from was actually an interview with a police officer who worked on monitoring related internet activities, and proactively confronting said individuals to offer preventative chemical castration and therapy sessions. That still doesn’t change the fact that most would rather just see those kinds of people gone, at least after they’re convicted/proven to act upon their urges.

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              Okay, I see that as valuable context to what you wrote before and mostly agree. Thanks for adding that.

              Though I also want to protect children from sexual abuse by adults, which is about the worst thing one can do, I do believe nevertheless it is still the right thing to try and help even the worst among us after they served their time, need rehabilitation more than ever and if they want and can be helped of course.

              That’s a whole different topic to what happened to the man in thr article and I don’t want to go down this specific rabbithole any further. I hope that’s okay with you.

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            There is still a lot research to be done, but it is possible that poedophilia is not so different fron being sexually attracted to people of your own gender.

            Societies outlaw living out these sexual desires for obvious reasons

            Oh wonderful, the regressives are here with their whole “homosexuals are pedophiles” shtick.

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        I do know.

        It is not like I shed tears for bad people dying. You don’t have to either.

        I just don’t want suicide to be celebrated. And I want suicide to be understood as (in the vast majority of cases) a very bad thing people commit, because their are mentally ill. Science is also backing up that celebrating or even covering suicide can bring other people to kill themselves too, who are good peoole, simply ill and shouldn’t.

        Suicide is not normal.

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          Yeah WTF, cross dressing is objectively bad? People don’t even try to hide their bigotry anymore. If anyone should get back in the closet it is the bigots.

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            The objectively bad things he did was being a pastor of a religion that is against anything queer and a part of the GOP doing the same, NOT being a cross dresser. No one in the whole thread that I read said anything bad about him for cross dressing.

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    Don’t know shit about this person, but 1819 news is a right wing shit hole. I wouldn’t trust these assholes to report the weather.