A second teacher at a high school in Missouri was put on leave after administrators discovered her OnlyFans side hustle.

Megan Gaither, 31, said during an interview with the St. Louis Post-Dispatch that she was placed on leave from her English teaching and varsity cheerleading coach position on Oct. 27 after district officials found out about her account on the OnlyFans platform.

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    Someone gets naked so everyone loses their minds.

    People shoot up schools: thoughts and prayers, thoughts and prayers…

    Religion is insanity.

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      Lots of countries have religion, but not many countries have guns as the leading cause of death among children and teens.

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        Yeah, instead they do things like kill LGBTQ people with machetes or put you in prison for apostasy.

        Religion is insanity.

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          Yeah, instead they do things like kill LGBTQ people with machetes or put you in prison for apostasy.

          You mean like Australia?

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          You say that like every country apart from the USA does that, lol.

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        We’re supposed to have separation of church and state to avoid this type of violence from religious zealots, but the us government decided to legalize bribery so they used the insane wealth they’ve amassed, in part due to tax-exempt religious status, to buy their way in.

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        Religion is insanity.

        Thoughts and prayers, thoughts and prayers… People shoot up schools

        Everyone loses their minds so someone gets naked.

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      To be fair I doubt a teacher that shoots up a school would be allowed to keep their job either, but these days who knows.

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    That problem would probably get a lot less acute if you guys over there finally started to pay decent wages to teachers

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      But if teachers were paid well, more talented people might decide to become teachers, and then children would receive better educations and possibly start to question why our society is structured the way it is. Much better to solve the problem at its root and keep everyone ignorant.

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          Yes, the children yearn for the mines anyways. Just toss them in there and put some audiobooks over loudspeakers.

          If that doesn’t legally qualify as school, we can change the laws

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        That’s not really a consideration to the state governments deciding on how and why to keep teachers pay low. A version of that is at play in circulum design, but not really in pay.

        It’s mostly a mix of:

        1. Hatred of public schools
        2. Their kids go to private, or well funded public districts
        3. Poor resource management within state budget
        4. Desire to weaken public education system overall, to advance vouchers, charters, etc.
        5. Power. Getting off on their raw exercise or power.

        The people who designed the system decades ago might have had the more nuanced, if still evil, approach that you outlined, but not now. The current crop are a lot stupider and their conception of cause and effect is a simplistic version of 1-1=0.

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      but… then… like…

      how would we have actual teachers to wank off to on OF? huh? HUH?!

      (/s. teachers shouldn’t be forced to have a side hustle. Never mind, you know, doing gig-work pornos.)

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        It’s not a problem with onlyfans in particular but teaching is difficult and critically important work. It’s a problem that teachers are not paid enough and have to look for side hustles (of any sort).

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    So. Underpaid highschool teacher is held to a higher standard then checks notes ex-president(and traitor to) the united states.

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    How did they discover the page? I’m curious about this.

    Gaither said in the interview that she made an account on the direct-to-subscribers website because she has over $125,000 in student loans and needed the extra income.

    “Teaching does not financially support a person,” Gaither said. “It’s really hard to stretch those paychecks during the summer. That’s why I did it.”

    According to the report, Gaither’s pay, which includes a stipend for coaching the school’s cheerleading squad, was around $47,500.

    When Gaither took the account down, she claimed to have had around 1,500 subscribers and was bringing in an extra $3,000 to $5,000 per month.

    47,5/12= ~3.96k per month

    With an onlyfan page, she made more than the teaching job. The issue isn’t her onlyfan page. It’s the paycheck at the end of the month. They must pay more. Supervisors also have to stop going on onlyfan for other thing than work. I don’t believe they discovered it by chance.

    Onlyfan is one of the symptoms of low income not a problem.

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      Jesus, I make like 3k less and never finished college. I do a shit job on phones. She gets peanuts for putting up with BS and doing 1.5 jobs for a school. Teachers don’t get enough.

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        The teachers that I know all get summer jobs which bumps their yearly income up several thousand dollars.

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          A lot of teachers need to use the summers for conferences and planning lessons for the upcoming year. (My wife was a teacher.)

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            If it’s a required thing they should obviously get paid for that time.

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    Speculation about Gaither’s involvement on the platform began in mid-October when she was seen in a video posted on Coppage’s account. While the video didn’t include Gaither’s face, it was recorded at a party, and she was seen in a public picture wearing the same costume that was worn in the video posted on OnlyFans, according to the report.

    So are we not going to call into question the “professionalism” of whoever found this video? Or did someone just accidentally make their way to onlyfans and pay to access her content. 🙄

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      Don’t imagine they knew who it was before paying for it, seeing as the only way to see who it was is to pay for it first. To be fair I’d be surprised and uncomfortable if I knew my kid had a teacher who they could find videos of her spread eagle naked whenever they wanted. If the sexes were reversed and it was a male porn star who was teaching children there would be a national uproar. I don’t have anything against sex work but some jobs just don’t really mesh together too well, this is one such situation. The obvious solution is just to pay our fucking teachers more so they don’t have to get second jobs to live but people would rather just yell at her like she’s doing this for shits and giggles because that’s easier than addressing the root problem.

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        my kid had a teacher who they could find videos of her spread eagle naked whenever they wanted.

        Yeah because children not only know about and routinely use only fans, they have money and credit cards

        You’re just a pearl clutcher like the rest of them, don’t try to sound different. You are not different.

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          …Kids DO use the internet? And know how to swipe credit cards from their parents? Like this isn’t new, this has been thing since the late 90s lol

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            You say that like if one kid from school can do it then it’s an epidemic. The article states the pictures never showed her face. You are a pearl clutcher, nothing more

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              I’m a millenial lifelong socialist atheist with gay/trans parents but go off I guess. If you actually read my comment you’d notice that I have nothing against her and instead said she should be paid more so she wouldn’t have to go on only fans.

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        Ridiculous that we “cant find” the money to pay the people educating the next generation more than this women is/will be making this year from posting photos and videos of herself online. Reveals a number of priorities that are out of line.

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          Yeah agree entirely. And we’ll pay it for as the years go on. I really don’t understand how investing in the future of our country is somehow a partisanship issue. I guess republicans just love inflicting misery more than their so called “patriotism”.

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    This is the only reaction people will have when the article drops about her getting fired. Then she gets more viewers, and probably makes more than she ever would have as a teacher.

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      This is ridiculous. What she does on OnlyFans has absolutely nothing to do with her performance as a teacher and it is disgusting that teachers that we desperately need are not only getting fired for being forced to do outside work to afford to be able to live and also buy supplies for their own classrooms but that they’re getting excoriated for it.

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        No they need to get real jobs…like at retail so everyone can harass them more and/or recognize them and feel bad while not actually doing anything.

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    The irony of this is being put on administrative leave and ending up on the news is likely to make her OF blow up. Probably a win/win for her.

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      I had a home ec teacher that was found out to do playboy spreads. As a young teenager I did not care. My parents did not care(they were hippies). Who cared the most were dumbass older teenage boys for some reason writing her porn name on the chalkboard before she came in one day. It was like they were angry at her for turning them on. That’s when I realized men’s sex education and support for processing complex thought and feelings around relationships and sex is abysmal.

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        As a young teenager I did not care.

        Were you a young teenage girl? Because you seem to completely lack understanding of teenage boys’ psychology. There’s absolutely no reason they would be angry at her for making them horny. That makes no sense at all.

        I would agree with your other replier on this. Furthering that, I would say this is the teenage boys’ attempt to challenge authority by undermining her authority with her open sexuality as a tool. They found a leverage to have power over her. And they’re going to use it to the full extent. They’re at a point in time of their growth where they find their social hierarchy. Almost every male mammal engages in this. They pick fights and they learn where they stand by winning and losing. And they want to get as high as possible. This explains the anger that you pointed out, because challenging authority and fighting is inherently similar emotion to anger.

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          Because you seem to completely lack understanding of teenage boys’ psychology. There’s absolutely no reason they would be angry at her for making them horny. That makes no sense at all.

          Ah. I see you are one of those types of bigots.

          As you surely didn’t forget a whole array of other non binary genders some of which actually get beaten to death for ‘turning straight men on.’

          Also some cultures will stone women for ‘turning men on enough to rape them’. That has nothing to do with ‘challenging authority’ in fact it’s gross you even compare it to that. It’s all about attacking vulnerable.

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      Probably not a popular take but I can at least understand it from the perspective of it just being easier to put her on paid leave than to play whackamole punishing every kid who starts bullying her or disrespecting her because stupid teenagers.

      It’s the dumbfuck no tolerance logic that inadvertently encourages kids to respond to being bullied by pulling a knife since they gettin’ punished either way for being in a fight, but it does make the twisted kind of sense you can expect from admins who hate nothing more than doing their jobs instead of sitting at their desk playing minesweeper all day.

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        Perpetuating the stigma isn’t going to help either. Kids take their cues from adults.

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      Humans are social creatures. We are affected direct and indirectly by other people whether you like it or not (unless you want to become a hikikomori).

      The fact that other people give a shit about about someone making porn in their free time, should make you give a shit. This is irrelevant to whether you think they should give a shit or not. Your lack of ability to give a shit signals your lack of foresight into how this affects your life as well as lack of social skills. If she wants to be an OF model, and therefore chooses to do OF content, that’s fine. If she wants to be a teacher and thinks she can do OF without consequence, she’s stupid.

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        Being a social creature doesn’t mean you get veto power over how others live their lives. Your justification thus falls flat as does your victim blaming argument.

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          When you were little, did you parents teach you to look both ways before crossing the street? Even when you’re at a stop sign or at a green light? Probably, since you’re still alive. Why did they do that? You’d be in the right. If a car hit you, you’d be the victim, 100%. But you do that anyway because being right or being the victim is completely irrelevant. It’s not about who gets the blame. It’s about what gives you the best outcome. You looking both ways before crossing the street has the best outcome for you. It doesn’t matter if you’re right if you’re fucking dead.

          If she wanted the best outcome of staying as a teacher, she shouldn’t have done OF. This should be a very easy deductive logic people should be able to make given what is the current society.

          This is not victim blaming. I lean quite far left, and this is one of the most insanely annoying thing I find about the left. Far too many only look about who’s the victim and whose to blame. That shit is fucking stupidest outlook on life. It’s a good goal to attain, a world without problem causing things. But unless utopia happens, you need to learn to figure out how the world works. Failure to do that simply means you’re stupid. You might be a victim, but you’re still stupid.

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            Your analogy is false. This is victim blaming and a gross violation of privacy. On your off time you are free to do what you want your employer is not paying you for that time.

            You sound like one of those no-fap types btw.

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              How is my analogy false? How did I victim blame? What did I blame her of? I said nothing of such. You’re going to have to substantiate your claim.

              I masterbate and have no issues others materbating. In fact I already said it’s fine if she wants to do OF.

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        L take and completely wrong. Fuck people for not only judging for something harmless, but also for directly impacting her life because of it when she didn’t impact anyone else’s.

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          What part am I wrong about? Her OF account has clearly affected her job as a teacher. The evidence of what I said is right there. You’re in denial of facts of what has already occurred. If she didn’t see this coming, she’s stupid.

          I don’t care if you think people shouldn’t be judgmental. You’re being judgement of me right now. And I am of you right now. People always are, always have been and always will. That’s how humans work. Your denial or calling it out as bad is irrelevant in your ability to plan for the future.

          Edit: Let me be clear. I am not defending the judgmental. I am pointing out the lack of social understanding.

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            In that same vain then, I shouldn’t dress “slutty” in public otherwise I’m just asking to get raped right? Get fucked.

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              Because you couldn’t point out what was wrong, you decided to take a strawman? No, that is not the same vain. The logic isn’t consistent.

              It would be: If she doesn’t want to get raped, she should take precautions based on the risks involved.

              If this teacher doesn’t want to be fired, she should understand that there are risks that follow her actions.

              If I follow your logic, the statement of the teacher would become:

              She must’ve wanted to get fired, so she did OF. No, the predicate the consequences are backwards.

              Being stupid is not a defense. And your argument is illogical.

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              No, that is not the same vain. The logic isn’t consistent.

              It would be: If she doesn’t want to get raped, she should take precautions based on the risks involved.

              If this teacher doesn’t want to be fired, she should understand that there are risks that follow her actions.

              If I follow your logic, the statement of the teacher would become:

              She must’ve wanted to get fired, so she did OF. No, the predicate the consequences are backwards.

              Being stupid is not a defense. And your argument is illogical.

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                  I did not victim blame. I wish logic and/or discrete mathematics is a requirement education in the world. Then we wouldn’t be having this conversation.

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    Imagine if we just paid teachers better so that they didn’t sometimes resort to this to make ends meet. Nah, let’s persecute the poor teacher instead!

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      The average teacher was in the bottom 20% of their class. It seems like we need to incentivize higher skilled people to teach. Pay is just part of it.

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        It’s hard to spend years getting a master’s degree and then to go work on a teacher’s salary. But then to be a professor, it’s another 6-8 years above and beyond a master’s to get a PhD (during which you’re making jack shit and aren’t allowed to work off campus). On top of that, higher ed is apparently ridiculously competitive and an insane amount of thankless long hours for a slightly higher shit salary than high school teachers. The whole culture around and within education needs changing. A lot of changing. It’s so disappointing.

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    Horny parents outraged that their obsession is also teaching their kids.

    “She’s on OnlyFans!”

    How do you know?

    “Uh…”


    Plus 125k in student loans and ~50k salary? What the fuck else is she supposed to do?

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      The real unfortunate thing is that she’s lucky in that she’s attractive and willing to do this. There are a lot of teachers who are in the same financial situation but don’t have that as an option.

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      Lmao, ok here me out.

      I think, maybe, just maybe, that some horny teens at the school figured it out and told. Just a bold theory.

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      I don’t know how to feel about this tbh.

      I don’t have an issue with someone doing OnlyFans, and obviously teachers are ridiculously underpaid.

      But I still don’t think it’s alright for someone teaching kids to have OF as a side job, especially once it’s something the kids are aware of.

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    This is DISGUSTING. Someone please post her handle or website so I can avoid it.

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    They get it all wrong. In an increasingly online society, this is a nice way to keep the parent-teacher conferences interesting.

    But seriously, I don’t get the problem with sex work. It’s not like that’s in any way shape or form relevant for her teaching capabilities. Sex does not become immoral just because you point a camera at it and all these people had to have sex to have children in the first place. Where’s the outrage about children living with their parents? These monsters have sex with each other! Some even while the children are at home!

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      Well I personally think the real issue here is teachers graduating with too much debt and the fact that most teachers are forced to have some kind of second job in order to pay their debt, bills, & rent \ mortgage.

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        Stop trying to address the root cause of thie actual issue and humanizing these people. You need to act performativly OUTRAGED and have a moral panic fueled by your repressed sexuality!!1!
        (/s)

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          Meanwhile, business continues as normal in religious schools where hundreds of thousands of American children learn under actual pedophiles. That, however, is ok because getting fondled or raped by a priest has an association with the magic sky guy.

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        I agree with you and teachers have been long underpaid, but also I think this is symptomatic of the middle-class squeeze that has been in play for a long time. The wealth consolidation, out of control costs for higher education, and inflation is strangling the middle class and the poor, IMO starting to strangle the economy, and stories like this are the blood squeezing out around the fingers as the grip continues to tighten.

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      The teaching community (as an institution)has some pretty specific thoughts on how to maintain the parent/student relationship and it involves maintaining some kind of curated image to their students.

      One time, when I was maybe 25, I saw a gaggle of good looking women at a pub about the same age as me, and then they came over and asked how I had liked the conference. “conference?”

      There had been a teacher conference and a large group went for drinks later and assumed I was also a teacher. I lied and joined the group.

      We ended up going to a nightclub later, and one teacher saw that a few of their students had managed to get into the club, and they LOST IT. Not upset at the kids, but they were captured by abstract horror at the thought of their student seeing THEM at the club.

      I pushed on it a little bit, like “shouldn’t they be the ones worried about seeing you?”

      And like, the whole group thought I had lost my mind. If COURSE the students couldn’t see us there, how would they ever respect us if they understood us as humans with our own lives? The teacher/student relationship would evaporate. Anarchy. The response to my question was immediate and unanimous.

      So… I gotta say… I don’t really get it… But there is a culture and mindset within the teaching community that is extremely foreign to me. And, based on my personal experience, I suspect that suspending OF teachers is probably the popular response within the greater teaching community as a whole. I’d be REALLY curious if there is any data that disproves my hypothesis.

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        I think the idea is that a lot of teachers feel they cannot maintain a proper teacher-student relationship unless the student see them as some sort of ultimate authority on something, and seeing them as humans might put cracks in that. I don’t agree with them since most of the teachers I loved the most in school were the ones I could empathize with, but it was certainly the way a lot of my teachers seemed to believe when I was in school.

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          So my wife teaches at a college / trade school, and has worked there for about 5 years. Previously she was a field engineer with a lot of experience working with the trades. She prefers to be “one of the boys” but can also play the professional role.

          So at first she figured “well we are all adults here” and treated everyone as peers who were there to learn. It didn’t take long for her to be frustrated and burned out. She told me it’s too hard emotionally to think of the students as people, much like how livestock cannot be pets (we have a farm, lol).

          There’s an endless stream of them and some are good, some are bad, some don’t try and some give it their best but don’t have what it takes. Some ask her if she’s on Tinder or have an Onlyfans… Ick. You can’t get them all through the course and you can’t develop relationships with them or their stress and emotions will rub off on you.

          So she started putting up this firm barrier where she is the teacher and they are the students. Changed her style of dress from business casual to “unapproachable career woman”, puts on that teacher attitude, and is enjoying her life a lot more.

          However it results in that odd behaviour mentioned above. If we go out to a casual pub to eat pub food and drink beer, when one of her students walks in the door she’s practically hiding under the table. “They can’t see me like this! I don’t have my makeup on, I’m wearing jeans, I’m drinking beer from a can! They have to think of me as a teacher, not an ordinary person!”

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        I had a science teacher in highschool that I happened to bump into at a Magadog show. Turns out he was friends with the band. I smoked a joint with him that night and nothing was different on Monday morning.

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      I don’t get the problem with sex work.

      Sigh. You must not know any sex-workers then.

      The recent glamorization of sex-work is something that exists solely by those who do not participate in it.

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        I’ve seen a lot of advocates for legalization, if not glamorization, come from the sex work industry. Aella, for example.

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          Legalization is different from glamorizing.

          It should be legal, but should not be glamorized. If you don’t understand the latter half, it’s because you don’t know sex workers and probably base your idea of the profession around a few popular outliers.

          The vast majority of sex workers hate their jobs and encourage everyone to steer clear of the profession.

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        I think you misunderstood. There certainly are problems with sex work. Woman being forced into it and living under terrible conditions for example is a big problem with the industry. But this post is about the outrage of other people. What I certainly don’t get is the problem people see in others doing sex work voluntarily. There is nothing morally wrong with having an OnlyFans account or doing any other type of sex work if you chose too. It is just as valid a choice as any other type of work. We should just make sure the conditions aren’t abusive.

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      Like those family members who outed the other family members for not keeping their eyes closed while saying Grace at the table.

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        I always just happened to be picking my nose with my middle finger and looking directly at them. Try me, cousin. Me & Satan are like >this<, so who’s on your team?

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        No, that the admins “discovered” her account as part of some official investigation, rather than subbing avidly before ratting her out from their own unprocessed self-loathing (or getting caught perving, who knows).

        edit: I’m not even gonna begin to unpack the sociological content of “cheerleader coach” and “sexualized teacher”.

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      Do you have any idea how many videos I had to watch until I discovered something that I found offensive, it’s disgusting. Only fans needs a better search engine.

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    I keep wondering when the war on teachers is going to spread to my district. Given how many Republican “parent choice” signs I see up I don’t think I have long. Really would have liked my kids to go to a functional school.

    I don’t care if my kids teacher does porn.

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        I don’t get your point other than snark. Frankly I don’t think you get it. When some Karen causes issues it hurts everyone. It means teachers quit, it means less go in the field, it means that parent-teacher relationships are more sour.

        Yes I don’t care if a teacher does porn and me not caring matters as much as the fuckface who decided to care about this! We have for some freaken reason decided that whomever gets offended is the one who makes the rules as long as they are louder than the ones not offended.

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      Choice for everything we’re care about the way we want it under our rules! Take it or leave it!

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      Hell I’d just be watching and jacking myself anyway. I wanna go to the PTA meeting, and that is like hell for me so, you know…