It happened to me recently at work. I don’t even find her physically attractive, and her personality is not what I’m into at all. But I was still somehow attracted to her - and she also was to me. She didn’t like me, and I certainly am not the kind of man she goes for. It’s like we had a strong connection in one area beneath the subconscious or something, but every other area was completely incompatible. Aggressively so.
Anyone else have anything similar?
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Sadly I think this might be a big part of it. I’m glad I posted because now I have a clearer understanding. Cheers.
Male Marines would fuck any woman. Get stationed in Camp Hansen. After a few months, any vagina is appealing. When going out in groups, the Marine that hooks up with the least appealing girl of a group (typically overweight), is highly appreciated and their contribution is called “jumping on the grenade” for taking a hit so that the other Marines could get laid.
When I was 20, we went to Spain for a joint exercise. I hooked up with a ~45 y/o Spanish woman. Best head ever.
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Reminds me of the late /r/Trashyboners
Very much like that, yes. But unwillingly. :-(
Yes, I’ve been with a girl like that for 2 years. My friends told me that I could get better looking women and found 8t strange I hooked up with her but my god, she got me going. Also, she was a nymphomaniac. That’s the main reason we broke up. Having sex twice a day takes the fun out of it if you’re not a sex addict. I encountered her a few weeks ago. She gained a lot of weight but I still wanted to screw her badly. It’s totally weird.
We are indeed a bizarre species.
let me guess, neither of you use strong parfumes, so you bodies get to tell each other you’d be a good genetic mix.
She does use a strong perfume. But it has been the same for about 20 years.
I find lots of physically hot people are quite arrogant cause they always have people chasing after them
That’s the reason I quit drinking
Very often. There are multiple kinds of attraction, esthetic and sexual don’t always overlap 100%. Meaning to say sexual attraction is not just visual - attitude, vibe, voice, smell, etc also play a role.
And none of it means you will get along with them on the personality level.
It’s just life. Part of interacting with other humans.
That makes sense. There was a brief period that we actually got along, joked around etc. That was cool. Then it went back to the grinding awkwardness.
One of my best friends in the world is of the opposite gender. We did sleep together once, a long time ago. We both agree it was awesome but we also both agree we ain’t right for each other. We’re both married (to other people) with kids now. No regrets, she’s friends with my wife and I with her husband. Any temptation to re-tread that experience? Nope, not at all (from me anyway, no indication that she feels any differently)
I don’t have a point to make, just replying to stuff with random musings while waiting for a haircut.
Does your wife know?
Interesting, I have found myself sexually attracted to some older women that aren’t really that attractive physically but they give off kind of a sultry vibe, but I couldn’t say I found them repulsive in any way, does that ring familiar?
Yes. Many times. I’m a woman btw. I never got anywhere with these people though, probably for the best. (Not sure if in your case you did?)
As in, hook up with the person? Haha no that didn’t happen. I thought the same as you, probably for the best.
Disgusted spiteful sex is one of the best types of sex.
I missed out. Damn.
Go split her in two like a piece of balsa wood, young padawan!
Actually, one of my exes really liked a song called Fuck Me Like You Hate Me. She was also quite hatable. It added some spice in the bedroom, but a high price was paid. I’m not really interested in revisiting that…
By Seether? I take it? It’s one of my favorites by them, its got a good beat to it lol
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Yes, that’s the one. I prefer their cover of Careless Whisper, personally. That song also has a very strong her-to-me vibe.
Is this a John Oliver quote? Lol
It does sound like one, now that I think about it.
I’m only sexually attracted to people I find repulsive
I can’t imagine that being my default. It was infuriating enough just once!
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(spitz means - beyond other things - “horny” in German)
Spitz means a lot of things. That’s why I chose it. 😉
I’m not an overly horny person. If I was, I wouldn’t have been disturbed enough to make this post.
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I get this all the time. In the past I acted on this sort of attraction, sometimes even hooking with the woman in question, but nowadays I don’t do it because it’s more trouble than it’s worth.
Care to share any stories?
I was drinking in a bar, some 6~7 years ago, with friends. Eventually the friends went back home. But I’m a slow drinker, and I was in an exceptionally social mood, and alone.
Then there was this woman, roughly my age, on a nearby table. We chatted a bit; not to hook up, but because both were bored, alone, and fairly sober. Talking about random stuff; she was the type of person whom I’d avoid in most situations, I certainly don’t care about her nails, what her sister did, and her church, and I bloody hate food-smelling perfume.
Frankly, I found her repulsive. Shallow, extra needy, and goddamn dumb. But damn, it would be bullshit if I said that I wasn’t sexually attracted to her so I started flirting (ready to back down if she showed no interest) and she reciprocated. We spent the night together at her place. Sex was great, but then she started texting me every. fucking. day, to talk about the same sort of random shit that she was talking in the bar, and inviting me over again.
After that I decided “yeah, nah, I’m not thinking with my dick any more”.
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Yes. I’m pretty sure its by the same virtue behind “The heart wants what the heart wants” (as in, same underlying concept). There are plenty of times where my conscious and subconscious disagree on what I “want”.
However, it only takes going down the road of “Well what if its not as bad as I think…” a couple of times to solidify the idea that, yes, it can absolutely be as bad as you think…
