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They call it pop here in North-East of England as well.

I wasn’t a black out drunk, mainly cause it didn’t take much to make me drunk, but I couldn’t stop once I started either. First I hold out on drinking during the week, then I’d have drinks on the evening, then a drink before work then decided to quit before it got further out of hand.

I hope you find the motivation to quit cause honestly drinking is such a waste of time. I genuinely believe all you need is to believe you can.

I work in a care home. I also have that thought every single day.

Stimulate me but don’t over stimulate me, maybe?

That’s true, best to use it in oxy-powder/stain-remover form that’s been formulated for fabrics and so you can get one for whites and one for colours. Should work for pretty much all of these stains.

I’ve gotten into a habit of “I’ll do it right now so I don’t have time to become anxious” and so I’ve gotten better about making calls now.

I am managing and kind of not managing really. Recently quit smoking and vaping and went off coffee so my brain has been a bit frazzled. But it’s getting back to normal.

Biggest help is working longer hours but fewer days and having my shift segmented so that I get downtime between busy hours. I do three days a week and on a workday don’t pressure myself to do any housework. On my days off I’ll catch up on sleep and housework.

I also have a diagnosis for autism so to me it seems like I can manage some symptoms of my ADHD easier thanks to ASD. But I also then seek a simple life and don’t do anything much besides work and looking after my dog and my partner. I’ll go out when I’m on holiday.

No use crying over spilt (choccy) milk

I’ve got the same issue but with all black socks

Love a bit of blue cheese, pineapple and ham on my pizza (and not that uncommon in Finland), but I have actually had it with shrimp added and that was quite nice.

Then sometimes you just wanted to ask what something means and your partner is so used to you asking them to repeat they repeat what they said and no w everyone is confused.

1. Interrupt them
2. Get really excited about the topic
3. Trip over your words
4. Try and wrap up to not scare/bore them
5. Realise what you said made no sense
6. Apologise

Some from recent memory:

• Real Humans (Äkta Människor) tv show, I liked the UK version a bit more
• Young Royals, tv show about a young gay prince
• Don’t Ever Wipe Tears Without Gloves, a heartbreaking miniseries dealing with Aids epidemic
• Raspberry Boat Refugee, a movie about a Finnish man who believes he should’ve been born Swedish
• Glowing Stars, a movie about a girl looking after her mom who has cancer
• Stormkärs Maja, a miniseries on the hard life on a tiny island
• Roy Andersson Also has a lot of fun absurdist comedies
• Also movies/miniseries based on Astrid Lindgren books are sweet and nostalgic and despite being aimed for children

I think those might be easy enough to find online depending on where you look.

To be honest I’m not a native English speaker so your advice is probably more useful anyway. My husband is British and has studied plenty of languages, finding Swedish and Norwegian definitely the easiest to pick up. Romance languages have more complicated grammar but you’ll find a lot more TV and movies to watch to casually pick up a bit more of the language, which I find useful because I only speak English as well as I do from watching a lot of TV (first with subs) when I was younger.

Which is especially weird considering the recent news regarding private ADHD clinics and whether it’s too easy to get a diagnosis privately in the UK. Similarly I have a diagnosis for ASD from Finland but have had a therapist say she didn’t think I was autistic, so if I can’t then discuss that in a very large and popular subreddit where should I go. It all seems rather silly.

Learning a new language. You learn a bit about how languages work, understand other cultures a bit better, usually learn new vocabulary for your native language, understand the relationship between different languages, learn the roots of loan words and generally helps your brain stay healthy, even by only studying the basics.

Yeah I’m hungry and want some food but there’s nothing quick/easy to make in my fridge. I’ve been microwaving potatoes to eat with butter for the past few days.

Why not both

I can barely count to a hundred without struggling, I keep forgetting what the next number is and repeat the number in my head to keep track of where I am until I remember what comes after 47.

Also just can’t do mental math, I’ve memorised basic calculations rather than understanding them so if it’s something I don’t use a lot I start doubting myself and spend ages breaking it down without being able to keep track of it all.

I’ve heard of dyscalculia being common with ADHD people but my schools never tested for it.