What exactly is an “emotional outburst” for you?

There are a lot of things this could mean, ranging from more benign (sobbing) to extreme or scary (throwing things or screaming or worse)

If it’s anywhere near the latter then you need to figure out how to manage those symptoms of your mental illness before you’re ready for a relationship.

Today is my birthday.

My mom has small cell lung cancer and is halfway across the US with my older brother. She has been mentally deteriorating for a while and they forgot my birthday. I get it because there is a lot going on with her disease, it’s just hard to see her so broken that she forgot.

My favorite food is artichokes and no store had them in stock, so I’m just gonna have steak and squash instead. Was at least hoping this would be an upside and now it’s not lol

IDK. It’s been an okay day I guess, I feel bad for my mom mostly. Getting older is hard.

Reddit just feels like hive mind jokes and reposts, but on lemmy people are genuinely interacting so it feels more engaging (which don’t get me wrong, happens on reddit too, you just have to sift through all the stupid marinara flag jokes)

It seems expensive per tube but you use such a small amount (I split a pea size amount between both pits) at a much lesser rate than normal deodorants that even the smaller tubes last a long time. I bought the biggest size last time I bought it and we’ve barely made a dent.

There is a small breaking in period for some people, and you are supposed to prep your clothes to reduce residual bacteria (I just wash with the lysol laundry disinfectant, I have two kids everything is germy), but once you find your groove for how often you need it is the best thing ever. At this point I would never go back to regular deodorant.

It also has a nice unscented smell, I can get headaches with strong scents so that was a big bonus. I actually tried Lume because of all the ads and it seemed cheaper but I hated the smell (got a sample pack and they were all awful) I had to use it daily and more if it so I ended up just tossing it after a few weeks and going back to nuud. I don’t know why people like it.

Anyway, rambling now, I hope it helps you and you like it.

I love nuud, I keep telling people about it but it’s like shouting into a void for some reason. It takes us forever to get through a tube because it lasts so long (I usually go between 4-5 days between putting it on). It also cuts through my boyfriend’s spice which is great for me lol. Best deodorant ever.

I have mentioned it to one of my friends a few times (who tends to have a bit of bo) and she always just brings up how great arm and hammer deodorant is. Idk I don’t want to be like “but dude you smell”

Haha I absolutely loved Lexx because it was so weird. I cried so hard when it ended, but I was a strange perverted teenage girl so 🤷‍♀️

Right, Halloween decorations were meant to be year round

Goldenboy is what got me into faces in anime. It’s also just gloriously perverted and hilarious and just really very heartwarming at the same time. The first time I saw it was about 20 years ago and I’m pretty sure it’s still in my top 5 favorite anime, however it is no longer the funniest - Asobi Asobase is the funniest fucking thing I have ever seen in my entire life and is gonna be hard to beat as my favorite anime in the future.

A few big ones really stuck with me.

As a child, it wasn’t a complicated dream, but I was dreaming that I was wearing roller skates and a rabbit was pushing me up and up and up a hill, and then pushed me off a cliff. I woke up on the floor.

Past decade, I had a dream about this really abusive ex and his family. We were out on the ocean on these little crappy rafts, and for some reason he and I were in a fridge as a boat. I feel out I think, and there were whales in the water. They grabbed my arms and started pushing me down, and down, and down, and then let go and I just kept going down and then I woke up.

I have had a few more deep ocean dreams but they trigger such a huge fear response (have thalassophobia) that they now always become a lucid dream and I switch to flying to get away from the water.

Past couple of years, I had this really weird one, there was a grim reaper kind of thing following me around wherever we went and it was terrifying. He was just everywhere I went in the dream. I was in the car and we were driving past our city hall and he was on the steps. I had had enough, I made my bf stop driving, I got out, and ran up the steps toward it shouting, “FUCK YOU, FUCK YOU, FUCK YOU!” I woke up actually in the middle of yelling the third one IRL 😆

Oh and a weird random not quite a dream. About 15 years ago one night I woke in the middle of the night during a dream, and there was this bright vivid scene still in my eyes just hanging in the air in front of me for a good minute, it was crazy, it faded and I got up because I was in disbelief that it had happened. Just a weird brain didn’t turn off the dream thing entirely I guess

I have no idea. My brother is 10 years older than I am, (so he’s 49, I’ll be 39 in a few months) and it was definitely something he let me play, I just have no idea what it could possibly have been. I’ve had a controller (keyboard and mouse mostly now) in my hands my entire life lol

I mean I’m gonna be 40 in a couple of years and I am not a mature adult. I think maturity might be a lie we tell the young adults tbh.

I think a little bit it’s just that people typically like labels. They want to fit neatly into their little labeled box and the more labels they have, the more unique and/or complete they feel.

I really rejected labels as a teen, I hated the idea of it. Now I realize they can be useful for some things, and you know, if my trans brother feels better because his label is now male, that’s fine it doesn’t hurt me any to call him what makes him feel good.

It’s really sad, I really liked him at one time - he used to make a lot of sense to my very lefty mind, and then at some point I realized the things he was saying were becoming more conspiracy than reality and that I didn’t really agree with him anymore. I like science and evidence, not crazy bullshit.

I just want to ask where doesn’t have a homelessness issue? I’m all the way up in cold af New Hampshire and we have a pretty big homeless population in my city

Seriously fucking sounds fucking awful

Yes kill with kindness was going to be my suggestion. I also agree with not interacting with her unless she’s directly trying to discuss something with you.

Also, if she says you’re doing something wrong, instead of just trying harder or ignoring her, just ask her to show you the best way to do it. People like people who ask them for favors, and this might make her warm up to you some. If it’s bad enough that you don’t want to be at work, you could also consider asking for a shift change. Be kind, be as strong as you can manage, and ignore if you need to.

I am a big fan of Babymetal

Father Ted did as well, I think it was on public access a couple decades back but I haven’t owned a tv in like 15 years so I can’t tell you what is on these days

I would say really light makeup, like maybe just tinted chapstick and a thin mascara (if you’re blonde use brown, not black

I wrote out a huge response to this and connect crashed that day and lost it, I meant to reply again but forgot until now. TLDR: everything I can in a home kitchen

I love most kinds of foods, my favorite food has been steamed artichokes dipped in hollandaise sauce pretty much my entire life. My more recent favorite food is jjajangmyeon, I mostly use Maangchi’s recipe but I tried another early on that added mirin and cabbage so I add those now too because they’re just so good in it.

My favorite recipes though are cheap, easy, quick, and delicious. Instant pot stuff has been great as I had a baby in January and it lets me make pretty decent stuff with very little work. The air fryer is also fantastic and we use it regularly for all kinds of things.

I finally got my 12" cast iron to a great state of seasoning so I’ve been making omelets and now more recently toast omelet things (basically dip bread in the eggs and flip over, then flip the whole thing once eggs are set, put filings in and close up and cook the bread to a nice golden brown on each side). I also love making beef jerky and oh boy is it way better than store-bought. Grilling is also fun, i smoke our turkey every year in my weber (got a rotisserie thing for it last year!), and I like to bake - pineapple upside-down cake is my favorite, but I’m also partial to sour cream pound cake (served as strawberry shortcake), and St. Louis gooey butter cake.

I’m always looking for new things to try, and my meal planner has more recipes than I’ve ever made saved in it haha (I should really clean it up).