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  • Rom-coms are aspirational fantasies. They’re modern-day fairy tales of getting swept off your feet by a handsome prince and living happily ever after, never wanting for anything ever again. Material comfort is always a factor in these stories. If it’s not overt, as in Pride and Prejudice where the main character betters their station by ending up with the mega-rich guy who seemed like a dick but turned out to have a heart of gold, then it has to be implied by the setting and the lifestyles of the characters. If the material wealth of the love interest isn’t going to be a factor in the story then it has to be demonstrated that those financial needs are met in some other way.

    You’re probably never going to see a rom-com where the main character gets their one true love, but being with them condemns them to a life of struggle and poverty. No matter how you try to spin it so it’s ok because at least they have each other, that would never be a truly satisfying ending in this type of movie. Material needs to be taken care of too. Even in movies like Overboard where the whole point of the movie is Goldie Hawn learning to be a human being by struggling through a working class lifestyle, they still have to end up rich at the end for the story to feel fully resolved.

    It’s polite to pretend that money doesn’t matter, and a lot of rom-coms try to down-play it, but it does. It does matter. And it always shows up in one way or another.
















  • 20ish years ago I installed Ubuntu on a laptop with the intention to get off Windows. I then spent 4 to 6 hours a day for the next two weeks just trying to get the WiFi to function. None of the fixes I could Google up worked, and that was frustrating. It was the people in the Linux forums that finally made me quit trying, though. The amount of gatekeeping was kind of shocking. Like, how dare I bother such mighty computer men with my plebian questions. I should feel honored that anyone condescended to respond at all, and I should gratefully accept their link to a fix I’ve already tried and fuck off.

    I bought a new PC last year and I hate Windows 11 so much that it’s got me eyeing Linux again. But the thought of having to repeat that whole ordeal again makes me feel sick to my butthole.


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    5 months ago

    Student: “Hey, a shortcut! Let me first just walk around the long way so I can measure the length of the other two sides, multiply those lengths by themselves, add them together, and find out how much extra walking I’ve saved myself by taking the shortcut. Boy, this shortcut sure is saving me a lot of effort. Hooray Pythagoras!”




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    This. This right here is what’s fucking you up.

    You’re hanging your sense of self worth on whether you played amazingly in a practice session, and playing amazingly all the time is not the point of practice. Like, at all. The point of practice is to make mistakes, to analyze and fix those mistakes, and then to reinforce your victories through repetition. If your practice sessions are just you sounding good playing the things you’re already good at playing, then you’re not really practicing. So if you find you’re not playing well that day then just slow down, look at where your mistakes are happening, look at the mechanics of how your hands are moving, play as slow as you need to in order to fix what’s wrong. Repeat that until the mistakes stop happening. That’s practicing. That’s what practice is for.

    I’ve been playing for over 30 years, so maybe I’ve become a little more philosophical about this stuff with age, but I don’t even see the point in thinking about practice in terms of whether a session was “good” or “bad.” You have to take a much longer view of what you’re doing. Each practice session, whether or not it feels productive, or feeds your ego or whatever, is a step toward a goal. Each goal is a mile marker on a long, looooong journey, which doesn’t have any real destination or end point. If you’re interested in progressing as a musician, you have to keep pushing yourself to attempt things that are beyond your current ability. When you do that, a lot (maybe even most) of your practice sessions are going to be messy, frustrating, and maybe even a little bit tedious. You just have to get comfortable with that. You don’t get better without that. You just have to sit down and do the work, and trust that if you follow the process it’ll eventually get you where you want to go. You just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other.

    when i try to play something, and the tuning is weird, or this pedal got nudged and sounds bad, or i try a new song and fuck it up

    Just FYI, the first two things in this list are immediately fixable in the moment. If you’re letting them affect your mental health, that’s 100% on you. Tune your guitar. Set your amp/pedal EQ to where it sounds good. Someday you might be successful enough to hire sound engineers and guitar techs to do it for you, but until then it’s all you.

    The third thing is just part of the process of learning a new song. It happens to everybody all the time. Nobody is exempt. There is zero point beating yourself up about it.