• Dubious_Fart@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    Mine just accused me of being gay via hearty use of homophobic slurs, because only women and gays cry, and i wasnt no woman.

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      That’s lame. Real men aren’t afraid to cry, whether straight or otherwise.

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      Everyone said I was disadvantaged by having a single parent, but I didn’t have to live through any of that shit except for 1 year my mother married (and then left the guy because he was an ass)

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          Ehhhhhhhh… I wouldn’t go that far. I had a not-terrible one, who only showed bad sides when I was in my 20s. lol

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        Yeah I had a similar situation. My dad was a toxic person who thought it was wrong when I cried (which I did a lot; I was a very emotional kiddo) and my mom did everything she could to protect me from that. They eventually separated the year I went into high school, and guess which one I still talk to now in my adult life.

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    Haha ok this meme was good.

    I’m one of the parents. Sorry for my generation. :)

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      We know it’s not all of you. Your generation also fought for civil rights, explored space, invented jogging I think.

      We have shitheels in our generation too. And I fear they’ll become more and more prominent as we get older. I hope we’re able to dampen their greed and intolerance.

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        Minor correction, boomers weren’t the ones fighting for civil rights. Boomers would have been in kindergarten during the civil rights movement.

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      Thank you. Millennials and Gen Z are the same mindless consumers that boomers were, by and large. It wasn’t their generation, it was the bourgeoisie.

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      I’m chronically online and just saw this, so it’s not worth complaining about yet.

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    As psychologists always say do not blame you parents, they just did what they could

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          The point of blaming anybody isn’t really about “blaming” them but understanding the cause of your personal trauma and how you reacted to it. You shouldn’t hold on to your trauma by only blaming someone and stopping your personal growth there. You should work to heal it and better yourself. It is hard to start healing if you don’t know the cause. You have to start somewhere.

          A small example from me is I wouldn’t buy tissue to blow my nose because “I don’t need it. I can use some hard ass brown paper towels and hurt my nose and irritate my skin.” I don’t mind buying the soft lotion plus tissue for my family and loved ones, but not myself. Why? I couldn’t understand why I felt this way. I just kind of always felt that way. That I’m not good enough and didn’t want to bother with nicer things for myself because “I’ll make do.” Is this from upbringing? Parents? Siblings? Friends? Self imposed rules because I interpreted other people’s actions and thought I wasn’t good enough. Finding the cause does help people feel better because they can have a better understanding of what to focus on.

          So yes it does help me feel better. I now have a thing of tissues at work I use when my nose gets runny instead of making do with rough as paper towels. 😁

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            That is what I think about. I don’t mean they did the best they could. I’m saying that due to their mentality and personal psychology there were no way for them to act another way. If we turn back time they’d do the same thing as it is what they saw from their personal background. I don’t mean we should understand them and forgive, I just think that we could take the responsibility for our life and get over that trauma and frustration to live further without the feeling that our happiness depends on what our parents did to us in the past. You can have another opinion that’s okay, I just express mine.

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              I think we both are saying to same thing in different ways. I was just saying blaming someone or finding the source helps to start the healing. It is 100% up to the individual to take responsibility on how they treat people. My older brother has “daddy” issues and tends to blame not getting enough approval for being a mess up. I still blame my brother for not bettering himself since then. He’s in his 40s.

              Every generation has trauma they pass down in some way, both known and unknown ways. Most parents do their best and we are all human. We’re bound to make mistakes. It is up to the individual to learn from them though.

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    Instead of groiping about problems all the time, we should also be thankful for all the great things they invented, like microchips and food abundance.