• Rolando@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    Imagine the following scenario: you meet someone in college, and when you graduate at 22 you don’t want to split up. They say sure, let’s live together, but we need to get engaged; if it doesn’t work out we can just break it off. After a year you realize your lives are much better together. You decide to get married but not to have kids until you’re 30. If it doesn’t work out you can divorce, but you sign a prenup and at least no kids would be involved.

    If you both have clear and compatible career goals, that scenario saves you a lot of dating drama and gives you valuable support. I wouldn’t call someone in that scenario “weird.”

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      10 months ago

      Yeah I’ve noticed at least a lot from my high-school group that dating for about 4 years is a good amount of time, me personally and a lot of close friends seemed to have hit their hardships in a relationship around that 4 year mark. Also moving is a good test about how you do in stress haha

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        10 months ago

        Been married for 10 years now. There’s one thing I’ve found to be the ultimate relationship tester:

        Furniture Assembly.

        If you can survive assembling a few pieces of IKEA puzzles together it’s probably going to last XD

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          10 months ago

          She leaves me to furniture assembly thankfully.

          The ultimate relationship tester is: moving house

          Either that or camping setup