• Wasweissich@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    I married at 22 over 20 years ago did not regret a day… I think a happy marriage is just a lot of luck a lot of self reflection and effort. No matter the age it is not a self running maintenance free system

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          10 months ago

          Two reasons to wait:

          • people in their early 20s are more likely to change dramatically later, so definitely more of a gamble at that age
          • because it’s a gamble, you should already be well prepared for life on your own before doing it; that gives you a solid fallback in case things don’t work out
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            10 months ago

            And on the flip side you might plan out your life to begin when you’re thirty, wait until youre wise and wealthy, then suddenly die.

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              10 months ago

              If you live somewhere where life expectancy is close enough to 30 to make that eventuality part of your life choices, then go ahead and marry as a teenager. Don’t even wait for 20, marry at 16.

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                10 months ago

                Likewise, if you live in a place where nobody dies before they reach their life expectancy, waiting might be a good idea.

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                  10 months ago

                  Life expectancy is the age most people live to. Some live less, some live more. You shouldn’t make plans heavily counting on one of those exceptions. Don’t hurry up to do things just in case you’re one of the ones who live less, don’t delay things too long because you might live to 120.

                  Planning for living 30 years only makes sense in a place where most people don’t live over that.