• the_brownie@lemm.ee
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    10 months ago

    I think part of the problem with this discussion is that a lot of us who were circumcised without consent spend most of our early years thinking it’s normal and there is nothing to be upset about. So when people point out the practice is generally very harmful, it is upsetting. It can be hard to process at first, and I think, unfortunately, some people double down on traditional rationalizations as a defense mechanism.

    That being said, I am not a fan of people referring to my genitalia as mutilated/mangled or to me as damaged. It is completely valid to be upset about having your foreskin removed without your consent, but I feel sometimes people veer a little too far in projecting their own hurt onto others. Many people live fulfilling lives with circumcised penises, and some even do it by choice, so, speaking strictly for myself, I generally am glass half-full about it.

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      Yeah, I think since the practice is based on organized religion and there’s no consent when circumcised, the validity of circumcision is quite questionable.

      But, medically speaking, is circumcision harmful?

      That’s a genuine question and I see a lot of uncircumcised people complain about phimosis and the skin flap getting tighter and more uncomfortable as they grow older, being cut sounds better.

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        It can be very very harmful, with pretty much no benefits. The claim that it helps prevent spread of sti’s is thoroughly debunked, and a person’s risk of getting penile cancer is way lower than the risk of complications from circumcision. The claim that is easier as a baby is also VERY thoroughly bullshit, on account of a baby’s foreskin is literally attached to their penis and has to be ripped away. All that pain and risk and long-term damage for basically nothing, it’s kinda fucked up that it’s still as common as it is

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          10 months ago

          Your entire post is simply false and outright misinformation.

          Absolutely nothing you said is even remotely true.

          Shame on you.

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        10 months ago

        But, medically speaking, is circumcision harmful?

        Seems to be among the hysterical crowd who’s not actually familiar with the medical opinions on this topic. Not surprising.

        Oddly, I happen to know a plastic surgeon who performs the procedure in my city, he’s apparently the go to guy for it so when given the opportunity to talk about children’s genitals I just had to take it up with him…he told me, to my surprise that the vast bulk of his patients now are recently immigrated from Africa. Wasn’t expecting that, was more just curious how much bullshit he got on a day to day basis given his specialty.

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          10 months ago

          last i checked according to the ole reliable wikipedia, circumcision is still pretty big in other parts of the world, notably africa iirc.

          Society is weird.

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            10 months ago

            It’s odd to me, and the specialist that the majority of his work now involves African people rather than the clientele he’s been working with for the past 30ish years of his practice was the point he emphasized.

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              10 months ago

              yeah, it’s a fair observation, i just felt the need to mention that for some reason. Often times weird things have fairly simple explanations.

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      10 months ago
      1. Kids can’t consent. Parents do it for them in every aspect. This is no different. Making medical decisions for your kids is normal.
      2. You have no reason to be bitter about a legitimate pre emptive procedure to prevent smegma and potential phimosis
      3. Male circ is a safe and sometimes necessary procedure.
      4. Why cant you people be honest? You’re bitter we get it. But lying about circumcision is just stupid and doesn’t convince anyone to not do it.
      5. Everyone should Google phimosis. Anti circ ppl love to lie about there being no medical reason or excuse it away.
      6. It’s none of your business what other people do with their bodies.
      7. There is nothing harmful here at all. It’s no different than removing a skin tag. Demonizing it is laughable.
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        10 months ago

        Google says phimosis is fixed easily and is rare to begin with. I think being passionate on either side is silly

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            I’m circumcised and happy about it because of conversations I’ve had various women about dicks in general and my dick in particular with a few of them. That being said if I ever have a son, he won’t be circumcised. Unless his mom is Jewish I guess. But I don’t understand the anger around the subject at all.

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              I’m circumcised, my son is not. If it is your religion, have at it. But forcing religious traditions onto those that don’t have a say is problematic. It’s getting better, but it’s still pushed in hospitals unnecessarily.

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              It’s good you’re able to talk sanely about it.

              But I don’t understand the anger around the subject at all.

              It’s simply a subject of personal autonomy and body integrity.

              Imagine being a grown man or just a teenager and being forced to perform that operation without your consent nor any explanation (as it’s mostly useless out of social norms and potentially harmful). I guess you’d be furious, at least.

              That’s it.

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                10 months ago

                But it’s not happening to grown men or teenagers against their will. It’s happening to people when they won’t remember it and the idea is it prevents minor annoyances about being a man. Archaic and unnecessary? Definitely. But getting mad at people isn’t going to change their mind and doesn’t help people understand it’s unnecessary. That said, being someone who has a mentally unhealthy aversion to bathing, I’m really glad I don’t have to even think about “smegma” I didn’t even know it was a thing until I was fully grown.

                Edit: to be clear, I don’t think anyone should do that to their kids. If you can’t teach your kid to clean themselves you probably shouldn’t have them to begin with. I just think it’s more helpful for future kids if their parents aren’t circumcising them because they don’t want to agree with the annoying angry people online. It would be more helpful to spread knowledge without judgement or making people feel shameful for something they thought was good. That’s how you get people to double down.

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        This is the dumbest fucking list of bullshit

        1. Kids can’t consent. Eyup.
        2. Cutting of a body part to avoid cleaning it is a unique kind of stupid argument.
        3. Nobody is against it when it’s necessary. That’s what is known as a strawman argument.
        4. No one is lying. You are the one trying to convince someone to do something. Not doing anything is the fucking default.
        5. Again, addressing phimosis is NOT the issue people are against.
        6. Babies are not capable of doing anything to their bodies.
        7. It can absolutely be harmful and comparing the removal of nerves and tissue from genitalia to a skin tag is so stupid that I actually think you’re trolling.
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          10 months ago

          Thanks for this lol. I started to respond yesterday but as I was thinking about their arguments halfway through I decided it wasn’t worth my time or energy (validated by their response to this comment LOL).