I tend say “I mean…” before saying things. No one has ever pointed it out. but I’m very aware of it and catch myself doing it all the time. Sometimes 2-3 times in a discussion.
I mean… 🤣
You nice. I mean.
i nice, u nice, we make nicer
Dang, I do that too
Biting my nails and the skin around my nails. Currently trying to quit again. On day 6.
You’re doing great. What helped me quit when I was a teenager was to always know where my nail clippers were, and have fast access to them. So whenever I had an urge due to an uneven nail edge, I’d just smooth it out with clippers or a nail file. Really made it simple to quit.
That’s how I’ve done it in the past. I keep nail clippers in my pocket all day. Thanks for the tip though.
Awesome! Stay strong, friend!
I used to do it, what helped me break it was keeping a rubber band on my wrist and every time id bite, id snap my self with the rubber band, took ~1.5 weeks for me to stop
But what if I’m a masochist?
New way to get off in public? Double trouble if you’re into voyeurism as well!
In all seriousness, it’s not a bad idea. I think I will try it.
What helped me quit was a manicure. Spending $40+ on my nails helped me not want to bite them. By the time the gel chipped off, I broke the habit, so I didn’t go back. I still pick off hangnails and the uneven structure, but having a file next to my desk at all times helps with that. I also have a cheat nail where I mess it up if I need to.
Staying up late. It’s not harmless.
I used to do that. Now, I loooove getting in my bed and cutting out the light and it’s “night night”!
Same. I will potter around until 5 or 6 am and then hate myself as I have a meeting in the morning that I will either need to drag myself out of bed for or sleep until lunchtime and lose half the productive day.
R̶e̶d̶d̶i̶t̶ Lemmy
Same
Reading.
Hear me out! I have always been an avid reader, get very sucked into plots. I got diagnosed with ADHD in June. Since I’ve been medicated I’ve read $15,000 worth of library books. A little of that amount was before June, but most has been since then.
I will walk around the house making food while reading. If I am doing something that requires my hands then it’s a podcast or audiobook. This all being said a lot has been manga or graphic novels but there have been days when I read 10+ books.
Probably doesn’t sound like the worst problem but it’s something that has started to impact my life in ways I did not expect.
Thanks for reading!
I haven’t done the math on “value” read, but I do 15-20 hours of audiobook (because 2x speed) on work days. It definitely can make finding new reads a challenge.
some libraries include that fun little stat on your slips.
That is exactly how I know ! Glad my library system isn’t the only one that does that.
you’ve ‘spent’ as much on books in five months as i have in, like, twenty years. but i don’t always actually check books out. i often just go there (it’s only a block away), grab a book, find a sofa to sit on, and read it… cover-to-cover, then put it back where i found it.
Mmmh that sounds lovely but I unfortunately do not have that luxury as I do not live in the same town as my library.
That’s kind of cool. I’d need to combine a lot of different sources to get a number, though. I use all of Libby and Hoopla from my library, a scribd subscription (sorry, everand, I guess now), Audible, and Apple Books to handle my audiobook needs (and more for ebooks, though I have less time for that).
You could try set a countdown on your phone to snap you out of it after an hour or so.
I have tried several different ways, and I will try the alarm again since you’ve suggested it - thank you by the way - but I often get laser focused in such a way that I don’t hear my partner speaking when he’s beside me on the couch.
That’s fair. You could try one of those classic bell-based alarm clocks, that shit will jolt even the most concentrated of people
I tried an air raid siren one and it helped a bit.
But maybe like an actual alarm clock not just an alarm on my phone… Hmmm thanks !
Yeah there’s something about phone speakers that just never does the job for me. I dunno, the alarm sounds just lack…presence. I use a bell-based alarm clock to wake me up and when that thing goes off, you’re getting the fuck up no matter how deep a sleep you’re in. Phone alarms? I’ve slept through too many to count.
Obviously your use case is different, I’m just thinking if it can snap out a deep sleeper like me, it might help break your hyperfocus too.
I’ve been sucked into a depression fueled reading hole where I just read and lay in bed for several days. What’s weird though is after a couple of days I start to narrate my dreams and if long enough it begins to make its way into my waking life?
Ever experienced anything like this?
Whoa I have not but that sounds intense. You should try blowing stuff up with your mind.
How do people like you find the time to work?
I’m on disability and cannot. But thanks.
Late night snacking
Waking up feeling slightly sick has been the norm for me for the past 5+ years
I regularly eat right before bed and I don’t have this, in fact if I don’t do it I wake up really hungry. It’s still a bad habit on my part. Maybe something else at work?
Sounds awful. Do you know what causes it? Otherwise this might not be in your control. Worth seeing a holistic therapist to find the root cause and hopefully feel better.
Learning a new hobby right after getting partway through another one
I can’t stop buying Chia pets. They can’t stop making new designs. Send help.
Biting/Knawing/Anxiety picking at my lips and fingers, it’s not fun
Turns out Lemmy is pretty wholesome according to this thread :P
To be fair, they specifically asked for harmless habits!
Mine is I can’t resist being contrary/devil’s advocate…
Someone has to be!
Eating sweets.
Doesnt kill me (yet).Forgetting time, space and everything else while I write code.
Not that I’ve almost set the kitchen on fire before by forgetting the pizza in the oven while writing “this one little function”.
I’m curious as to what you program/work in. I’m the same way when I’m invested into a configuration/template (I work with the cloud)
It doesn’t really matter for me what it is, as long as it is a project I’m working on xD
I think at the time I was migrating a discord bot I to use PostgreSQL - or setting up auto backups for it.
When I’m baking bread, I have to set timers for myself to make sure it doesn’t overproof or burn in the oven.
The feeling is wild. I sit down, set a timer for 1-2 hrs, start work, and with the snap of a finger I’m torn out of my zone by my alarm sound.
I tend to start sentences with “So,” in emails and that just doesn’t seem professional.
If it was harmless, why would I care to break it?
If you strive to break a habit, it likely is because it has done harm, no?
Doesnt harm/kill OP, but OP wants to quit anyway.
They have identified that the habit is harmful. Not all harm is associated with pain or injury. You can cause a person practical/emotional/financial harm, and those are still forms of harm.
It says seemingly harmless
… ok? But if it seemed to be harmless then why would you try to break it?
Because it may actually not be? And maybe you already know that it isnt harmless but it could still seem to be.
I love caffeine, but it messes me up bad. Absolutely debilitating headaches. I’ll go six months or something without, and then relapse until I get woken up by a jackhammer in my skull and give it up again. Sigh. I don’t understand the studies that actually suggest it’s good for you.
that doesnt seem harmless.
It sounds like a rare reaction. Some people are allergic to water but you wouldn’t say, “that doesn’t sound harmless.”
Maybe the diuretic nature (u pee more) gives you a headache. Next relapse, drink a glass of water or three.
I thought that too. It doesn’t seem to help. At least not quick enough.
