Unpleasant stuff is much less unpleasant over the text
Talking over phone isnt bad, it can be much quicker and easier than texting. And phone calls are definitely a million times better than sending voice messages in an instant messenger (really hate those).
That might be true, but it’s also more personal and us introverts get lots of anxiety exposing ourselves.
I think for everyone it takes some time to get used to talking over the phone.
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good question for https://lemmy.ml/c/polls
I have a terrible memory and prefer text to voice. Also I’m very shy.
I’ve never understood Zoomers problem with making a phone call? They grew up with smartphones and kids nowadays even get a smartphone at an age of 2 from their irresponsible parents.
So what’s the problem with using the device for what it was invented for?
Very much older than a zoomer, but I also hate phone calls. With a text or email, you have the ability to take your time and work through what you want to say (plus there’s a record of what everyone said so you don’t have to worry about the conversation being misconstrued or blatantly lied about, but that’s a different issue). With a phone call, it has all of the stress and anxiety of a face to face conversation, but compounded, because you don’t actually get to see body language or expressions, and so the conversation lacks a crucial bit of conversational context.
Another thing to take into consideration: for younger people especially, the only phone calls they are used to having are with figures of authority. Jobs, parents, teachers, utilities, landlords, bill collectors, etc. So the inherent association with a phone call is that it is a “serious” or tense conversation, with high stakes. Because of that in-built association, even a harmless/friendly phone call starts off with increased tension.
Okay, so it’s because of the same reason they don’t like to use emails anymore. There is an association to apply to a job or communicate with teachers, etc. and they are uncomfortable to use it, because of that.
Maybe I can compare it with my generation (Millennials). We didn’t use letters to write to friends and didn’t know the concept of a pen pal, because every time we get a letter (made out of paper) it was a bill or something different uncomfortable. Emails and ICQ were our thing, especially boomers didn’t know how to use the internet (or haven’t seen a useful purpose) at the time and that’s why we even liked it more.
So in general it’s conditioning a whole generation to make only bad experience with a thing, until they get anxious about it.
yeah, and honestly I think that’s a cycle that will generally repeat. Every new generation will be averse to the previous generations’ communication methods, because they will associate it with talking to adults and be uncomfortable with it
Honestly I prefer normal phone calls. Text feels soulless.
