Likely assigned male at birth

Fuck those people who expect you to have no emotions. Red relationship flag if I ever saw one - they didn’t think of you as a person, just an idea.

One of the most impactful things my wife said to me was “it’s okay to not be okay”.

Classic library meat cleaver!

You’re going to make me blush!

As a dude I still do throw out the compliment - I just make sure to say it as I leave so it’s clear there are no strings attached. “I really like what you did with your shoes - have a good one!”

As a guy I feel like I typically don’t get non-flirty compliments from gals, and I understand that it’s probably because there’s the worry of misunderstanding intent.

That said, one time a few years ago a gal mentioned she liked my boots as she walked past and I’m still riding that high, lol. If it helps make people happier I’m not going to shy away from complimenting them :)

Woman, not girl. I’m an adult and expect to be treated as such.

Interesting, cuz I’m interpreting that first sentence to mean how she’d like to be referred to, due to the second sentence referring to herself. Also note the singular “woman” and “girl”, not plural “women” and “girls”. Based on that it’s pretty clear she’s referring to an individual and not all womankind.

Am I missing something where she claims to speak for all womankind?

as long as you don’t have bad intentions it’s all good

Generally speaking, this is a problematic way of justifying your actions.

It’s all good if you have no bad intentions as long as you apologize when called out.

Good intentions do not give you a free pass, however they do help others understand where you’re coming from if you bring them up when apologizing.

“My bad, I didn’t know about that, growing up it was always okay to do XYZ”

“Sorry I made it more stressful for you, I thought I was helping”

hits very different from

“This is ridiculous, I had good intentions and you’re still upset 🙄”

In fact, if you say the latter you’re saying you have good intentions, but how good are those intentions if you refuse to help accommodate more?

Some understanding and clear communication will do a lot to smooth the axles of the world.

I read somewhere that Hezbollah started using pagers as their main method of communication instead of cell phones out of worry that phones would get hacked. That’d explain the prevalence of the pagers.

I think the point of the island is to show that when you have limited space, residential density really matters. Even if you took away all the concrete, spacing, etc between houses in this example and just out 100 ranch style homes in a corner with no spacing in between them, it would leave room for significantly less nature.

Your neighborhood sounds beautiful, and that’s great, but that ratio between nature and residents is probably being achieved with more land than if high density residential housing was in place.

Yeah I’d pay good money for this ngl

Dang. Yeah unpredictability is the worst.

This is just for fun, but you might enjoy this video by someone who genetically engineered an everlasting gobstopper to give him long lasting lactose tolerance

I just down fistfuls of Costco lactaid, lol

A dude was quitting magic the gathering cuz he played it with his ex. Bought his collection. Found a non-precious metal wedding band. I don’t know where it is now, perhaps it rolled it’s way to smeagol.

How active is your local Lemmy community? Mines is pretty dead but voting for the specifics you call for is still mentioned.

Of course people aren’t going to be discussing the specifics of local races in the general politics community. It’s entirely disingenuous to argue that’s an indicator that nobody cares about local races.

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On top of that, I’d say there’s some nuance - nationally, you’ll see Democrats reasoning with Republicans, targeting the non-maga conservatives.

However here on Lemmy, there are very few conservatives as well as a disproportionate number of third party folks, so you’ll see a lot more discussion centered around third parties.

If it’s easier to reason with third party voters than trump voters, it seems like the logical thing to do.

EDIT: also worth pointing out the difference between “attacking” trump voters as individuals, because they have proven themselves to truly be deplorable, and “attacking” third party voting as a decision.

I only see selfishness because you obviously get butthurt over hackers.

You’re projecting a lot of the preferences and priorities onto me when I’ve shown that steam has chosen to operate this way for nearly a decade. It’s not what I want - it’s what steam wants.

Steams job is to provide people with a good gaming experience, my guess is that hackers ruin that for others so they don’t like it and prioritize banning hackers.

Go do some research before claiming such things. It has been a thing for many many years.

So that’s the thing… The bans have also worked this way for that long, which further solidifies the idea that valve prioritizes banning hackers over being forgiving of cheating relatives…

Most people getting VAC bans are the stupid ones trying out free hacks.

Are the ones using free hacks not hackers? Seems like bans on them for hacking makes sense.

You keep asking for my solution, but my solutions are so obvious it would take a stupid person to not think of them. Hey here’s one: “investigate the main accounts manually”. I thought such ideas would not require a triple digit IQ to be considered obvious.

I’m going to propose that this would probably take an infeasible number of hours when you scale it up to the full customer base for steam, which looks like 132 million monthly active users.. Otherwise, like you said, it’s so obvious, what else would prevent them from thinking of it and implementing it?

They already had family sharing where a ban upon the main account could have been contested. You could at least ask them to consider the age or stupidity of the person or family member using your library.

Hmm, I might be misunderstanding what you’re saying, but it doesn’t seem like the case. If a borrower got the main account banned, it was up to the borrower to successfully appeal.

EDIT: here’s a proposed change that I like. It’s better than a blanket “you get 1 excused VAC ban”, because with that solution what happens when you have two unruly teenagers? n+1, children, for that matter. However this would still potentially double the amount of hackers, since they could get their first strike for free before truly losing access to the game, so it really falls to how much steam wants to weigh keeping hackers out of games vs allowing folks to share libraries.

Nor do I even have to be the one to come up with a plan.

People that just complain without a better improvement in mind didn’t actually care to change anything, because they’ve haven’t shown that there’s a reasonable alternative. Those people don’t care if there’s a practical alternative, they’re just upset that it doesn’t meet their specific needs. They just want to “speak to the manager” and complain. “It’s not my job to fix it! Fix it!”. If that’s quote captures your stance, just lmk and it will save us both some time.

I actually even already gave a simple plan and you ignored it.

I didn’t ignore it, I asked how it would deal with a fundamental enforcement of rules that steam has always done and you’ve ignored that, lol. Are you here to just complain or do you actually want to see if there’s a better way forward? What’s a feasible alternative to handle hackers and provide quality of life improvements like family sharing?

Your arguments that hackers are more important than a parent with a kid are selfish and stupid.

I’d argue that hackers are more important to valve because they implemented VAC bans almost 20 years ago. They just now announced a family sharing feature and you’re pretending that steam was meant to be designed around the family to start, which is an uphill battle to argue.

And force Valve to ruin it for the rest of us.

First of all, it’s already implemented this way. You’re the one arguing for an alternative that could increase the number of hackers - if anyone is trying to force valve to ruin it “for the rest of us”, it’s you, since you’re arguing to change the status quo.

Finally, don’t want valve to “ruin” it for you? Don’t use the brand new opt in feature. You have lost absolutely nothing - nothing has been “ruined”.