i have an info sharing compulsion that makes me obnoxious to people who didn’t really want a helpful reply at the moment. found my niche in DnD and study groups, but i still piss off people irl when they want to complain without being offered solutions or encouragement.

i might not have jerk intentions, but it can be jerk behavior if i misread the room hard enough.

thanks for engaging in earnest.

people are definitely people. Do you like bellcurves?

you may have a headpat, optional.

for real though, recreational third spaces are better than transit or errand-necessity third spaces for a casual “hello isn’t it interesting around here” chat.

attending social groups around interests helps take the guesswork out of whether people are cool to talk or no.

not that any of that would help anyone who leads with self-centered whining or skipped too many showers.

yeah, i know it’s kind of troll-feeding, but there are probably other people reading who might still have some hope to stop eating incel kaka and turn it around. G.I.G.O…

thanks for keeping you defeatism and poor reading skills off the streets where someone else could get hurt. might be time for a glass of water and a stretch, bruh. ya’ll deserve pro help with that depression et al., when you’re ready.

feel free to make another unkind and unfunny reply if it’s what helps your ego survive another 24 hrs. hopefully you have an expressive or constructive hobby as a possible alternative…

yes!

cool, yah. as long as the audience can decline and leave, it’s a performance. Otherwise it’s harrasment – fortunately the other article covers the finer points of avoiding cornering people or behaving like a stalker pretty well.

https://stopstreetharassment.org/resources/male-allies/how-to-talk-to-women/

https://www.wikihow.com/Talk-to-Strangers

not really that much of an exception. most queer folk deal with bullying trauma, neuro spicyness, and are much more prone to poverty due to work discrimination and shunning by families and neighbors. All of that tends to snowball, and most of us end up with chronic inflamation and/or anxiety disorders. #thebodykeepsthescore pew trust has some useful stats.

You’re stating something that people directly affected already know on a ‘waking up anxious about it’ basis. This may be interpreted as ‘failure to read the room’, ‘ignorance of history on the topic,’ or possibly ‘failure to identify on a human level in the face of minor differences.’ – all treatable, but unhelpful to people who are actively discusssing survival of self or preservation of self expression as a genaral liberty.

tl;dr – you sound like an ignorant or selfish jerk, or a 13 yo who hasn’t had a thought of their own yet. Critical thinking and listening more are usually the cure #recoveredassholesanonymous

also, for Us: running helps least on a social outcome level – better to use temporary evasion tactics and stay close or return to areas familiar enough to play gorilla tag. Duck and run, but also Hold the line.

This still sounds like violent conversion therapy. What an aweful, merciless god you make of yourself.

… would you like to walk away from Omelas…?

N