Workplace conversation should be casual at all times, no overly personal stuff, no hot button topics ever. If things are that friendly, meet up outside work and get back to the job. Not because of some bullshit protestant work ethic or capitalist bullshit, but because you agreed to do a thing for a period of time, and fucking around while the job is still on is lame.

exactly…

if I go the autism route, ain’t there a chance HR will ask for proof?

am very careful with how I phrase stuff

I was always polite and vague with how I declined their questions early on

would you write some examples for me to use?

so how do you survive them? and on a daily basis?

thanks a lot for all of this, so many things I didn’t even consider. I never thought they could be this dangerous. Petty and childish? Every day, but this dangerous? Nope. How naive of me.

As I guess you know, it’s very tiring to pretend interest when they bore me. It’s really dawning to me that the best outcome would be to work entirely somewhere else or follow your advice and ask my supervisor not to make me work with them.

I’m not that convinced about fake bonding with the nosy ones, because, why would I do that? I have no trouble discussing the weather or recipes with the other 50%, it’s just this clique that’s… childish and immature. And I don’t go to work to feel stressed.

while I’m very tempted to follow this route, what do I tell them if 2 of them gang together with the contradictory info I fed them and confront me? ‘I don’t recall ever saying that, please let me work’?

It’s even worse when your supervisor sometimes acts like one of these people.

I might just repeat like a broken record ‘I don’t want to talk about it and I hope you respect that’.

I still believe a nosy person will test this boundary, but I’ll try it and see what happens.

boy, people sure are thin skinned

thanks for your post.

ace

I’ve never really had a problem.

then my coworkers are all busybodies who don’t know what boundaries are.

Still, answering ‘how old are you’ with ‘none of your business’ seems overkill. I just want them to leave me alone.