I was raised around those good old traditional values like “do what you’re told” and “a woman’s value is caring for a family.” Once I started thinking for myself and asking questions, I still struggled with all the “but they’re killing living babies!” idea. Then one day it occurred to me - we don’t determine death by when the heart stops, why would we decide it starts just because we hear a beat? Brain death determines death, wouldn’t an appropriate level of brain activity determine life? I let go of a lot of baggage that day.