Hi all! As promised, here is the proposed text of the newest version of the rules. The staff has gone through like eight drafts and literally thousands and thousands of matrix posts to get here, so please be kind. You can see @limeey’s comment on the transparency post if you want more insight into how this sausage was made.

We are opening these rules to commentary from the community before they go into effect. To be clear, this isn’t a vote, but we will take all community feedback into account and answer whatever questions we can before finalizing anything.

Please keep in mind that we are not Reddit, we do not have Reddit’s resources, and safety and consent are our priorities.

I’ll post the draft in two parts in two comments: The new sidebar, and the FAQ/clarifications page.

    • Mikey Mongol @lemmynsfw.comOPM
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      1 year ago

      Not, and allowed assuming it doesn’t cross over into CNC, respectively. You can consent to being tied up and bastinado’d without pretending it’s NC, after all.

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        Huh, I do think the separation is harder than you make it out to be.

        Technically, any kind of BDSM that necessitates the use of safewords is in the territory of CNC, in the sense that if someone says “stop” and you don’t respond yet you do respond if they say “pineapple” – that’s very clearly consensual nonconsent.

        Rape play is a subset of CNC, but it’s not the only kind of CNC that’s out there.

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          I didn’t say it was an easy separation, just that separation was possible. there’s grey area just like any other type of human interaction, but there’s also stuff that is definitely black and definitely white.

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            1 year ago

            Fair enough. Can you contact @Patriarch and make sure that they’re aware of the status of the rules?

            The last time the rules were updated, Padded and I argued for a while over rape hentai and I would prefer to avoid that kind of situation unneccessarily.