Does anyone else have multiple accounts while looking for new reddit alts? So far I’ve got accounts on Lemmy, kbin, and Squabbles and I’ve been lurking on Raddle, Sqwok, and Tildes from the outside.
Also, man, that sentence is just the most 2023 statement ever. “Raddle” … “Sqwok” … “Lemmy” … None of these sound like real things. What even is this timeline we’re in…
Look if people are getting mad because you’re using “they” to refer to someone who has not disclosed their pronouns, then they’re being unreasonable. But I’ve literally never seen that. What I have seen is people getting mad when someone uses “they” to refer to someone who has disclosed their pronouns. And often, this is something that is done by mildly transphobic people who aren’t fully comfortable using, e.g., “she” to refer to someone who they feel looks insufficiently like a woman, but recognize that using “he” is wrong. Using “they” in this situation is just as wrong.
That being said, it doesn’t help that there’s no easy way to disclose your pronouns on this app. I’m a lot of discord servers I’m in, they use badges for pronouns so you can click on someone’s username and see their pronouns. But no such option exists here
I would say people getting mad about a they instead of a he/she even after disclosure are being unreasonable. The word they is neutral ground in text conversation. I can see it being awkward to use in a direct conversation, but so often in threads, we’re talking to the public not the individual.
Having said that, I still haven’t seen anyone really get mad except in cases of direct misgendering. Yes some people will be unreasonable, but they are the exception.