I keep seeing the same names popping up. I think it’s rather cute!

    • Stamets@lemmy.worldEnglish
      51·
      10 months ago

      Well a few months after leaving reddit I do feel a lot better in general so I’m not surprised.

      I go back occasionally to check for something or just to see what things are like. I dunno if it’s just gotten insanely more toxic since July or if it’s just been that way for a long time but oh my god. Every comment section is just angry and bitter and hateful. I was looking at a post yesterday and thought it was cute and interesting so I open the comments. Every single one of them were either saying it was fake, that it was stupid, that it was cringey, that it didn’t make sense, etc. It’s like no one has an ounce of positivity on that site.

      • Nepenthe@kbin.social
        12·
        10 months ago

        It’s really a mix of both. More heavily the way the site has been for years because people love drama more than anything else. If you want the sweet serotonin of karma, you’ve gotta be simultaneously the funniest, meanest, and most jaded person in the room, and everyone is jockeying for that position.

        It just breeds assholes by design. I’ve noticed my own behavior has changed, too, since leaving that place, although partially that’s because I just didn’t want to be like that anymore.

        But it really has been noticeably affected since the protests. I was originally trying to stay for one single sub I was in, because they were the kindest, calmest community I’d met since back when forums were a thing.

        Just the best group, for reasons none of us really understood and some of us kept trying to find psychological commonalities to explain. Truly 98% of them were people I’d chill with irl and I still know a few on discord. And also here. If you’re reading this, hello!

        But the migration away was enough to completely alter the atmosphere imo. A lot of the more conscientious users left for other pastures, leaving behind those that were more neutral or even openly hostile about the protests.

        There began to be fights and insults thrown where before this, any aggression had been unusual. The posts took a turn that reflected that feeling and I really stopped bothering with the place after a few months. I’m still a bit sad about it and there are things that I miss, but there just wasn’t enough to hold me anymore. It seemed to increasingly echo every other part of the site.

        For the moment, this place is quieter but better. We still get dumb shit every now and then, but it’s not to the same degree and hopefully never will be. As above, I blame the demographic. We’ve grouped all the people with stubborn morals into a little room and it turns out they have things in common. I do miss a couple people I used to see everywhere all the time when kbin first ramped up, but we run in different circles and they’ve gotten lost in the crowd.

        And yes, btw, I am also going to name you one of my favorite users to see around. You seem as kind as you are prolific.

        • Stamets@lemmy.worldEnglish
          8·
          10 months ago

          That makes sense. I know that when I was active on reddit I was way snarkier. Still comes out occasionally but it was just a lot more common. I do remember having to specifically limit myself when I first started posting to not get bitchy towards people for no reason. Kind of disappointed in myself there. I’m glad that’s at least paid off in people think I’m kind. I’m really not but I appreciate the compliment <3

          Those protests really did demonstrate just how bad things had gotten. I don’t think I remember anyone ever casually discussing what was going on. I remember commenting once saying how the Spez was a mod of Jailbait thing is overblown because anyone could be added as a mod at that time without them having to accept it, much like how Lemmy currently works. I was added as mod to /c/Gay in the same fashion. Someone just added him and he didnt realize. Downvoted to high heaven because it wasn’t pure bashing of him. There are so many things to hate about Spez and that situation but I’m gonna stick to ones that have some weight.

      • Lvxferre@mander.xyzEnglish
        1·
        10 months ago

        I dunno if it’s just gotten insanely more toxic since July or if it’s just been that way for a long time but oh my god.

        I feel like it’s a mix of both: the community there became bitter, more aggressive and more assumptive, while we (people who migrated out) got less used to how things work there.

      • intensely_human@lemm.eeEnglish
        1·
        10 months ago

        They banned those of us who were challenging the bitterness and hate. Whenever I’d argue against bitterness, they’d call me a bootlicker, and within a couple of comments, a nazi.

        Eventually, I got banned from reddit for being a nazi.

        So now that their “hey maybe stop being so bitter and take responsibility” nazis are all gone, they’ve concentrated themselves into an echo chamber based on resentment.

    • Guy Dudeman@lemmy.worldEnglish
      9·
      10 months ago

      I don’t know about that. I feel like being a big fish in a small pond puts the spotlight on you more, leading to caring a lot more about whether or not your contributions are received well. And when you don’t follow the zeitgeist of the small community lock-step, that can cause lots of anxiety and lead to more mental health problems.

    • onlinepersona@programming.devEnglish
      43·
      10 months ago

      I wish kurzgesagt joined the fediverse. They are quite big (21M followers). Being able to watch them here without going to youtube would be a nice step in the right direction.

      CC BY-NC-SA 4.0

  • grue@lemmy.worldEnglish
    38·
    10 months ago

    There’s two reasons for that:

    1. Lemmy is still small (compared to centralized social media).

    2. We all chose to be here instead of mainstream social media for a reason, so we’ve all got something in common.

  • OperationPuppet@lemmy.worldEnglish
    32·
    10 months ago

    I would suggest there’s also a lot of lurkers and folks who just don’t post much. I’ve noticed The Fediverse has a good and healthy number of folks on the Autism spectrum, and it’s not surprising they don’t actively post a lot.

    It’s a lesson I learned being a professional puppet builder (yes you read that right) and running a little community around the craft. There’s a lot of people on the spectrum in that field too. They may not post a whole lot, but they are definitely engaged.

    The freedom to have a voice is also the freedom to remain quiet 😁

      • Schrodinger's Dinger @lemmy.worldEnglish
        5·
        10 months ago

        The golden days of IRC were the best. Every day I use the current internet, I miss the way of the old internet. Back when everything was just run by a bunch of nerds doing whatever they wanted, as opposed to everyone being shut out by the big names now, looking to control everything and maximise profit.

      • penguin_knight@lemmy.worldEnglish
        3·
        10 months ago

        when I was young (but still way past the prime time of IRC, 2000’s), I was invited to a few IRC servers for raids and etc. I didnt realize other kids werent doing the same…

      • I Cast Fist@programming.devEnglish
        2·
        10 months ago

        Depends on which old format you mean. The late 90s php-bbs is rare, but you can still find some of them around, I think the forums for the Commander X16 (a new retro computer) uses that style, or something closer to 2004-ish.

  • JohnDClay@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    27·
    10 months ago

    Mostly only the very active users moved over from Reddit, so we have a lot of content for not as many people. But it’s nice how active and invested most people here seem to be.

  • Neil@lemmy.mlEnglish
    23·
    10 months ago

    I have a really bad habit of never looking at anyone’s names…

  • BiggestBulb@kbin.run
    231·
    10 months ago

    Sometimes I feel like @The_Picard_Maneuver@startrek.website literally keeps my feed (and all my subscriptions) alive. Thank you for your service 🫡

  • katy ✨@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    13·
    10 months ago

    as a former resident of the infopop forums, i liken the fediverse to bulletin boards in the 90s and early 2000s and it’s nice - the kind that were super hyper localized by topic but everyone was friendly. :)

  • ShaunaTheDead@kbin.social
    12·
    10 months ago

    I wonder if others have some favourite posters that you they quite often?

    For me, it’s @Stamets and ThePicardManuever but I’ve noticed a couple other prominent posters lately although their names haven’t stuck for me just yet.

  • technomad@slrpnk.netEnglish
    12·
    10 months ago

    I definitely recognize some of the mods, and some of the key players in the communities that I follow. There’s good people here, and I believe it’s going to keep getting better.

    I wasn’t paying attention to usernames as much when I first started. For whatever reason, I’ve started to pay attention to the names, as well as the instances. I like seeing where people are commenting from, and it even gives some insight into places or things I might be interested in as well.

    Sometimes I’ll check out a person’s profile to see what things they’re commenting on. This feels kind of creepy a little bit. I don’t think anyone really cares though, so long as you’re not being abusive or something.

    • Blaze@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
      6·
      10 months ago

      Sometimes I’ll check out a person’s profile to see what things they’re commenting on. This feels kind of creepy a little bit.

      It’s okay for me, people should use throwaway accounts for very personal stuff anyway

    • AdamEatsAss@lemmy.worldEnglish
      5·
      10 months ago

      I view knitting as a state of mind. I think people are thrown off by the fideverse when others try to explain it to them, but once they use it they realize, much like the social media of old, they don’t need to fully understand how it works to enjoy it.