Have we really become so unempathetic as a society that the act of putting yourself in others’ shoes is unbelievable to the point that people assume you must be part of the group you’re defending? So I often see people being unfairly discriminatory and mean to certain types, attributes or qualities of people, which I know some would be offended and hurt by. But whenever I stick up for them, I get comments like this: “Tell me you’re x without telling me you’re x”. “F*** off, x”. A good example is gay people or trans people. I get heavily criticised for defending them and people immediately assume that I’m gay or trans just because I’m expressing that I empathise with how they’re treated in society and think people should be kinder toward them. There are lots of other examples but I’m worried I’ll be antagonised here just by saying them, so I picked some slightly more socially acceptable ones (yes there are some far less socially acceptable things than LGBT these days, in my experience, despite the rampant LGBTphobia).

  • TheBananaKing@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    This seems more like a rhetorical question than an actual question, since you’re mostly answering it yourself.

    Are you actually looking for answers, or just making a point?

    (I’m not saying your point is invalid, of course…)

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      1 year ago

      Honestly wondering why people do this (why people immediately assume you must be part of any group you’re defending). And I didn’t think I answered that, but maybe I did and I missed it

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        1 year ago

        Humans naturally try to categorize things.

        …I think.

        It’s almost like a yin and yang thing. Categorizing helps, but at the same time loses focus of the full spectrum.