Mates, makeup ain’t for y’all. You know how you spent eight hours messing with your .bashrc or rolling for counter strike skins or whatever weirdass hobby you have? You don’t do it because you are trying to attract women - you see your friends get into something cool and you get competitive with them. That’s what it is for the womenfolk. They get their nails did and do weird ass makeup looks because it’s a fun hobby. They know that you probably don’t care about the difference between coffin and ballerina nails. But their friends do, and they want to show off, because it’s fun.
Wow, this is a wake up call. I have been wasting my time on this .bashrc file.
Time I enjoy wasting isn’t wasted time … so yeah, totally wasted on .bashsrc, but the programmer socks make up for it.
programmer socks
I know I’ve been online for too long to know if these are just nerdy socks or cute thigh highs for ricing
I’m pretty sure anyone saying the phrase “programming socks” really means cute thigh highs
Powerline fonts are just fake lashes for nerds
They get their nails did and do weird ass makeup looks because it’s a fun hobby.
One of my all time favourite xkcd comics and that’s saying a metric shitton!
-10° is cold day in Moscow? That’s warm day! Cold is -25°.
AS a gay guy i can atleast tell you this dies not hold true for the gays OFC part of its all in gold fünf but we still try to look hot 4 guys
Maybe it’s a guy thing to want to look hot primarily to attract a mate, so that’s why hetero men think women do everything just to look good for them.
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Honestly i think it isn’t a Gender thing and much more an individual thing thats different for everyone IMO much too much gets associated with Gender when it shouldn’t have anything to do with it
Wow, seems like you are the only reasonable person on lemmy. Kudos!
Users here love to hate other platforms for their hostile comments but continue to create an equally toxic environment just with a different flavor.
As long as people have fun and don’t hurt anybody, let them roam.
And the notion of what is looking good and bad is a result of heavily sexualized norms that are fed into girls at a young age already. In the effect women who chose not to wear makeup are facing backlash and are made to feel less confident.
So it isn’t just a fun hobby. It is also the expression and often submission to sexualized and sexist societal norms.
Didn’t had the fun to mess with my .bashrc, but I have to mess with the jdk-openjdk and the jre-openjdk package, which are in conflict. All help I found online didn’t work.
I made a .config/shell/shellrc.
Man she’d be really hot if her eyelashes were longer.
There. I just said it. Now this post is a LIE
😱🤯
prove that you are a dude
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Okay now you have to follow through. Go out and marry one of those falsie-long-lashes freaks. No divorces allowed. You must gaze adoringly into her eyes at least twenty times a day for the rest of your life.
I have made a terrible mistake
So, a few things:
- No way to prove you’re a dude.
- Post is still not a lie, as your statement followed the post. You can’t say that someone in the year 1900 was a liar if they said “no man has walked on the moon”.
- Technically you wrote it, not said it. Therefore your comment is a LIE
In 1900 no man had walked on the moon yet. Wouldn’t be a lie if in 1900 someone said “No man has walked on the moon.”
Yup, that’s the point I was making as well
But he said true story. It’s the incel code.
Most men have no idea what they actually like. I’d be willing to bet most wouldn’t be able to identify light mascara even if they saw it applied
Agree. Men who go out of their way to evaluate women’s appearances and say they like women with no makeup generally mean they prefer it when women are level ten makeup astronauts who make full face look like “I just woke up this way!”
That said, the full-set lakes that make it visibly hard for a person to blink look really uncomfortable, and that makes me vicariously uncomfortable.
Men who go out of their way to evaluate women’s appearances and say they like women with no makeup generally mean they prefer it when women are level ten makeup astronauts who make full face look like “I just woke up this way!”
How do you evaluate that? I’m really asking, cause I’ve been in long-term relationships, so I’ve gone to bed next to someone who just removed their makeup and liked their face better without it, so please let me know how you evaluate that “generally” that’s what men mean - that they like full face make-up?
There’s two kinds of putting on makeup: the kind where you’re going for drama, and the kind where you try to make it look as natural as possible, highlighting features to make them look better.
Most often, when you see comments about ‘women should look like this!’ And ‘see, women without makeup look better!’ the pictures that go along with the comment are women with a very good version of the second type of makeup.
Oh, so you base your assumption of “most men” off of comments you see on the internet. Ok, nevermind then.
Ah, but I’m given to understand it’s only men on the internet. If that’s the case, given the large number of people, then it’s by far the biggest sample size.
Your choice to rely on data collected from internet isn’t wrong because “there are no women on the internet”, or because the sample size is too small. It’s wrong because of two things
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the bias of your sample, which is created by you. You’re the only one reading comments, so you’re only reading them from certain sources. Whether those sources will constitute a sample that is representative to the rest of the world is debatable
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People lie on the internet. For example, I am a piranha, and every time I hit a certain region of my tank’s glass, autocorrect selects one of the three words suggested, based on the location of my head bonk. Unfortunately so are most of my colleagues in this thread replying to makeup related questions, as well as everywhere else in your online presence. We’re all just fish bonking our heads on glass. We’d obviously all love makeup on women, if we understood the concept of women. Your polling sample is unfortunately tainted. But hey, at least you know now that most piranhas like makeup on women.
Boy, snark and hyperbole are really lost on you, aren’t they.
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My, aren’t we salty.
What I’m saying is, there is a certain type of man who goes around policing women’s appearances and beauty habits on the internet (ew, I wish they wouldn’t wear makeups… so gross!). This type also gets fussy when they have to witness a woman not having a stunningly flawless face (ew, she’s a 3, how dare she exist).
say they like women with no makeup
It generally means they don’t like women wearing so much make-up it is noticeable even to them.
At least for me. I rather prefer them a little ugly than looking like a clown.
To say it differently, you don’t ask a fish how to go fishing. They would just say “be a delicious worm or bug” and have no concept of rods, reels, locations, or any of the skills involved in actually fishing.
Yeah, this statement is simply wrong. Men unconsciously notice a lot of things, and they might deny noticing even obvious ones because any acknowledgement of fashion is considered effeminate by some men.
I love the drag queen lashes that are so long they’ll take out the person next to you if you turn your head too fast.
hey so this might come as a surprise to some guys but actually most of the time women put effort into their appearance for themselves, so they feel confident, and comfortable in their bodies.
this post is reeking of Jordan Peterson’s women wear makeup because they want to fuck me energy
You cannot not communicate, the societal notion as to which is “good looks” for women is strongly sexualized and children are exposed to these notions from an early age. Also the subtle or less subtle social pressure plays a big role in it. A friend of mine moved from a “posh” city to mine. She said she didn’t dare going out without putting on makeup for two hours because she would get bad looks in the street otherwise and it took her a long time to unlearn that.
So while it isn’t women wearing make up because they want to fuck, the social construction that makes them feel less confident and less comfortable without make up is revolving around that and it is part of the problem. It is not that women just feel more confident with make up. It is that they feel less confident without it, because they are pressured to feel so.
I’m a woman. We don’t do it for ourselves, we do it so outward society as a whole doesn’t call us “tired” all day. If I thought I could go into work with no makeup and not get looks or comments, I would.
And while I have my disagreement from Peterson, you’ve completely missed the point to what he said. Makeup emulates the changes a face goes through when aroused. It is tied to attraction, which is tied to sex. It’s not a difficult concept to grasp.
i just stopped wearing any makeup except lipstick and sunscreen when covid happened. i really thought about wearing it when i got my current job and decided that, if i started, i would be creating an “expectation.” i didn’t want to deal with “you look tired” on days i didn’t bother, or feel like i had to whether i wanted to mess with it or not.
now i wear makeup for fancy dress and that’s it.
but respect for people who do wear it often! i admire how nice it looks on my coworker who clearly puts time and effort into a really beautiful makeup.
I personally do it for both extrinsic and intrinsic reasons. I feel very cute with eyeshadow and mascara. Unfortunately i needed a second attempt at puberty so i also need makeup to ensure that no one gives me a hard time for my beard shadow. Including myself.
And yet men go for the women with long eyelashes. Just because men aren’t aware of it doesn’t mean the women’s moves don’t work.
But even if they didn’t, imagine this: Women can change the way they look entirely without wanting to look hotter for men. Shocking, I know.
How egotistic do you have to be to think that your opinion is warranted with regards to women’s appearance? Good for you if you think you don’t like lashes. No one asked, and I’d be willing to bet you’d see a woman with full face on including lashes or mascara and think she looks great. 🙄
The men in this thread calling women repulsive for wearing lashes are unbelievable. Imagine saying something so horrible to someone about an aspect of their appearance you personally think you don’t like. And then you wonder why no one wants to date you.
As a dude, I want women to use this meme format for guys.
Something like, “No woman cares about your shuriken collection”. (Wow writing it out loud, I attacked myself…)
The onion did this once, it’s a yt video called the “attractive girls union” iirc
Now I want to see a post showing off your shuriken collection
I’m honestly disappointed in Lemmy rn…
The fact this post is even still up and upvoted without thought is depressing, that applies even if it wasn’t specifically about women or anything else.
Not only that, OP’s post history is quite problematic.
The bumper sticker slogan isn’t really wrong, i think most of us are ignorant to what we do/don’t like in this regard. I would have never said that before a month ago tbh because my wife never got them, and then when she did, I said why waste the money you dont need them. Then found myself staring at her more. I still prob wouldnt say it. As the women have shown in here we can be pretty oblivious. And I think im fairly in tune with small details making a big difference.
Not only that, OP’s post history is quite problematic.
What’s problematic about it? Because I post greentexts?
There’s not much I can say to you to convince you it is problematic, but posts like this and the weird hate on other things.
There’s a fraction of a fraction of a percent of Lemmy users in this thread, it’s probably not a good yardstick to measure the entire userbase by.
The thread isn’t even that bad, it’s the upvotes that’re sad.
This site is becoming the same kind of mysognistic reddit was.
I’m afraid, this isn’t exclusive to Lemmy or Reddit. It’s just patriarchy and toxic masculinity doing its thing
If I’m doing a male equivalent of fake eyelashes, I hope someone would tell me!
Like wearing a muscle suit under your clothes
Would you judge a guy who didn’t shower for months?
Not taking care of your hygiene is not comparable to wearing makeup 🙄
It’s there body though? Who are you to judge?
Every single human being is held to the standards of hygiene. Being unhygienic is bad for your health and can spread disease. Men are not held to the same standards of hygiene that women are. Men are not held to the same standards of appearance that women are. Men are not punished for failing to meet those standards in the same way that women are.
Do you think women don’t get judged for being unhygienic? I run into men in public all the time who I can smell from 30 yards away and who are covered in dirt or oil or God knows what. I very rarely run into women who are comparably unkempt. Women face severe social consequences for being even slightly unkempt. Even if they’re trades workers.
And none of this is even relevant to the topic which is about makeup.
Couldn’t have said it better myself. Preach.
I knew a girl with thin eyelashes in junior high/high school. She got made fun of for it a lot, by both girls and boys. So, I’m guessing some girls want thick lashes because they learned the hard way that guys do indeed care, and unfortunately society cares in general.
As a dude, find fake lashes repulsive. I’m just too nice to call people out to their face.
You probably find extreme falsies repulsive, but you probably wouldn’t notice a natural filling in if them. And, you wouldn’t find a lack of natural lashes very attractive either.
Same but I do call them out. Told my girl she looks great naturally and she finally got enough confidence to go bare all the time
I prefer her that way, too.
So do I
And my axe
Not accosting strangers or, heaven forbid, friends about how repulsive you find their features is a pretty low bar for “nice”.
There are two extreme sides. Yeah, if you dont have many lashes to begin with, men will notice it as a flaw.
Right now, extremely large lashes are popular. I suspect it arose from Instagram makeup posts, or Instagram beauty in general. Eyelashes are harder to see in photos, so putting them on causes a fuller look. There are lots of women today who still wear a full face of Instagram makeup every day. The look today is extreme.
The sad reality of false lashes are that their regular lashes will eventually all or mostly fall out with extended use, both the glue on ones and the thraded in one’s. It’s a self-fulfilling cycle, because eventually they’ll have no natural lashes at all, causing them to have to wear them.
I used to wear falsies once a week back in 2010/2011 for a fashion meetup I attended. As soon I saw my natural lashes start falling out, I stopped. Now I only wear them if a Halloween costume calls for it. It’s not worth it otherwise.
And before anyone comes at me with: “But if you wear them pRoPeRlY-!”
It doesn’t matter. Humans aren’t infallible and mistakes happen. Over a long enough period, those lashes are coming out.
Yes, guys care, but what we have today isn’t just a reaction to men caring, it’s Instagram selfish culture in general.
no woman has ever said “these fake eyelashes are ugly as fuck but if i wear them i bet dudes will find me hot”
true story…
Gotdamn yall. Some men think it’s hot, some men don’t. Some women do wear makeup for others, some women don’t. More broadly, no one group does anything for a single reason so we need to stop being so combative online about shit posts.
I think girls who get long eyelashes do it because they like how they look.
And thank god if they do because I would hate a woman who only cares about what other people think of her looks.
No dude has ever said “she’d look hotter if her lips and cheeks were redder,” either but ya’ll would cry if we stopped wearing lipstick and blush. Quit your bullshit.
Seriously. I’m sure some people will hyperfixate on the lipstick/rouge example you gave, but generally many guys don’t understand or think about makeup and thus have no awareness of how it impacts how they’re attracted to people. And then they have the gall to lecture others about what works and what doesn’t.
Also shoutout to some of the straight up sexist replies in this thread. Nice to see a sizable chunk of reddit neckbeards made their way over here.
I would say it is kind of sexist to state that all men would cry if women stopped wearing blush and lipstick, and that we don’t realize what we are attracted to. We aren’t a hivemind. I personally prefer natural over makeup.
That being said, yea some of these replies are douchey as hell, and I’m sorry for women who have to deal with that bullshit.
You might be a rare exception that actually means what they say, but the vast majority of men who say “I personally prefer natural over makeup” don’t realize that our “natural” that they love is quite often still a light touch of makeup here and there. Not to mention the sexist implication that we’re necessarily doing it for you.
There are most definitely a ton of men out there who think like that, so I completely understand. I think women can be beautiful with makeup, too, I just feel there is too much pressure for women to wear it, when it should be an entirely personal choice.
I would like to at least make it known that there are men who think women and feminine souls of all types can be attractive without makeup, as well.
But the post is already sexist. Why wouldn’t women want to push back?
not to mention, I get dressed and think “I look good today!”
at no point do i think, “I wonder if the average woman would like me wearing this, and if they wouldn’t I will never wear it again”
I mean I’m bi, so I guess it’s “any given person”
if I had to dress entirely like any person anywhere in the world would like what I’m wearing I’d end up looking like a waiter every day.
But then some people think that women somehow are considering “the average guy” in their dressing habits. I assume the majority of the world gives very little thought to other people when getting dressed.
To be fair guys would still have sex with you if you didn’t wear make-up at all. It’s just that if you like the way you look with make-up, do your thing. I hardly wear any make-up because my cheeks turn red naturally and I don’t want to hide that and add artificial blush. I’ll just do lipstick and smokey eyes.
Lol I think they were talking about eyelash extensions
ya’ll would cry if we stopped wearing lipstick and blush.
I don’t think so? Maybe blush, but I don’t know any guy who really likes lipstick. Same with fake nails.
Fake nails look awful. Don’t know why anyone would consider claws attractive. Lipstick can look alright though.
Men like natural women so we wouldn’t cry.
Red lipstick is the worst. Makes the wearer look clownish.
Nah, calm your tits.
Fun fact. Men have actually on average longer eyelashes than women. It makes sense when you think about the fact that their hormones promote men’s hair growth.
That means eyelashes, ironically enough, are a masculine feature.
Could you tell that to the hair in my head that slowly disappearing? Although I do have very long eyelashes…
Pluck your eyelashes and get them transplanted onto your head. Problem solved.
It’s not disappearing. It’s migrating towards your back, your face, and your ass. Ask me how I know.
Looking like a dam yeti at the beach with one bright bald spot.
Ask me how I know
Are you spying on him?
I can neither nor confirm deny that.
Women find this irresistible!
I mean, if a dude exercises, lots of women do go for this look. Beats the hell outa me.
Or if her lips were shaped like balloons
What if it isn’t for you (assuming you are a guy), tho?
Do girls find long eyelashes hot?
am girl who likes girls. i fuckin LOVE fake eyelashes on other girls and myself
i can appreciate them on both an aesthetic level as well as a technical level cuz like these shits ain’t easy to put on and keep on and have them not look fuckin jank
Oh yeah? If you’re a girl, name all of them!
Shit. I completely forgot girls don’t exist, especially on the internet…! :]
Whitney Houston
Hypatia
Börte
Peaches
Evelyn Guerrero
and some othersthere, done
I am sorry for sharing this opinion, but finding something attractive because it is hard to put sounds similar to asian tradition of breaking little girl’s feet to make it small so they would look more “attractive”.
And while putting fake eyelashes doesn’t seem to hurt anyone, enjoying such thing does seem wrong to me. It is just another fake ritual of mating dance made by fashion industry. Do you really consider yourself no good enough to be loved without ones?
Yeah, that’s a weird take from them for sure.
Do you think people only wear things to make themselves look hot?
…do you think maybe some gals might just like having long eyelashes?
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Girl here. Yes.
I wanna make my lashes hella long and paint my eyelids green so my eyes look like a pair of Venus Flytraps.
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I don’t like that. ಠ_ಠ
Please kill me
