I’m male 16, living in Iran for clarification. (English is not my first language so sorry for any mistakes)

I have always struggled with my hair style and look, as I always cut my hair very short and uniform all around because of strict school dress code and policies.

But as I’m getting older I’m starting to want to improve myself and have better mental and physical health.

I’ve become self-conscious of face and looks after the pandemic specifically because I feel left out of many things compared to my peers. One of which is my hair style and cut.

I’m not sure how should I cut, style and maintain my hair. As I mentioned previously I always cut it short and uniform and I showered every 2-3 days, so I’d like to know how to maintain the hair.

But most importantly I don’t know what to tell my barber?

Sorry for the rant and long post.

  • atlasraven31@lemm.ee
    13·
    11 months ago

    Bring a fashion magazine to your barber and point to the style you like. Celebrity photos might help too.

    • Alireza@lemm.eeOP
      3·
      11 months ago

      I’m very anxious of how I would look and don’t know which style would fit me.

      • jmcs@discuss.tchncs.de
        6·
        11 months ago

        If it doesn’t fit you, you can either adjust it immediately if there’s still enough hair left, or it will grow in a couple of weeks if there’s not.

        • Alireza@lemm.eeOP
          21·
          11 months ago

          Couple of weeks of looking silly sounds like torture for a person with already low self esteem :)

          But I will try your advice if I didn’t find anything better.

          • amanneedsamaid@sopuli.xyzEnglish
            3·
            11 months ago

            Personally, I would try to realize others might respect you more for confident behavior like trying new hairstyles instead of ridicule you if the hairstyle isn’t the best for a few weeks.

            • Alireza@lemm.eeOP
              3·
              11 months ago

              Never thought of it that way. I try to never judge people based off appearance, but I know people around me do.

              • amanneedsamaid@sopuli.xyzEnglish
                1·
                11 months ago

                If I see someone I know (especially someone I know to have issues with self esteem) trying something like a new haircut, or asking a girl out or really anything that presents a social risk, I gain respect for them.

                Heed some advice from Nelson Mandela:

                I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.

          • RBWells@lemmy.world
            1·
            11 months ago

            If you know someone with good hair, ask where they get theirs done. And try not to worry.

      • Aremel@lemmy.world
        3·
        11 months ago

        If it doesn’t look good, you can always go back to your old cut and then try again when your hair gets long enough.