Practice being cognizant of this. Visualize yourself being aware of this while talking with people. This kind of visualization often helps me realize when I am engaging in behavior I want to change.
I don’t need to change, I just need more people to talk to outside of work. Making new friends at my age is the Dark Souls of socializing 💀
Yes, but if you don’t deal with the negative feelings you have when people comment on something you’re self conscious about, its still going to affect you. Not everything can be solved with exposure therapy.
Mood , only they don’t need to tell me I talk a lot. I just assume I do eventually, and close down on my own out of internalized shame.
Sounds like a toxic person that “friend”
I mean… “you talk a lot” isn’t that bad depending on how it’s delivered. It’s something that is possible to respond to by healthy adjustment rather than overcompensating to the opposite extreme.
I think Ive gotten used to listening more. I can hear mt own stories any time I want, and another person’s reaction to my stories is pretty lackluster. But give someone room to talk and you’ll have the most easy start to a friendship. Just not too much, or I won’t care and our investment levels will be too much if a mismatch. I like listening.
This, except I’m the person who tells me I talk a lot
the circle of real social life
Just practice more social awareness
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