they think we’re all hypocrite like them, just a different flavour.

This is it right here - those who benefit from oppressive systems very often assume that if those they oppress ever gained power, all they would do is turn the tables and oppress them in return. Because A. those with privilege love to find ways to claim victimhood, and B. they can’t even conceive of a non-oppressive relationship even existing, they simply don’t know what it looks like, so they project their own views (that in society you are either the oppressor or the oppressed and they know which one they would rather be) instead of try to reach a point where no one is oppressed.