AND NOBODY TOLD ME?
right‽ just tell me! my self-worth isn’t based on someone else’s lack of interest in a topic.
Interrobang gang
I specifically interrupted myself to ask if my monologue is too much!!
Eventually I just stopped talking to people.
This is what posting online is for.
What do you mean by that, my least favorite part of the Snickers bar?
I have an insanely large number of things to say. I like to think and come to conclusions, and then check my rationale by having a discussion with other people about it. Nobody wants to do this in person, also I am old and people get busy when they’re old.
A couple days ago, I wrote a “paper” titled “Donald Trump is Going to Prison,” in order to sort through all the things I know and craft them into a picture, so that I can make sense of current events. I updated it with some additional information last night, and I will probably continue to do so. Talking/writing out my ideas is how I am able to better understand the world, and I very much like to have those ideas challenged.
Online forums are a fantastic place to do that.
If you decided to do some sort of website or lemmy community for posting your ideas, I’d be interested in reading them even tho I don’t like nougat 😉
That would mean I would have to make a committment, and we all know that’s not going to happen.
But thank you. Seriously, not kidding. If you are actually interested in anything I think, you can find what I think in my comment history here.
Exactly! That, and I can tweak my writing to see if it conveys what I want. I cannot just hit ctrl+z when I’m talking.
Most times I feel I’m having these galaxy-brain thoughts but they come across as pea-brain sentences when trying to articulate them (how long is long enough for a rant/explanation?). Going meta has also not gone well for me. By that I mean discussing about how we’re discussing the topic at hand. It seems to be shrugged off as a tangent or distraction, when I believe it’s a good baseline for the current and future conversations I might have with the person.
Discourse online is better suited for the exchanges I like to have with others (such as the folks on this very thread), because arguments can be better fleshed out and people are less afraid to share their rationale. Ideas and perspectives can clash, but it’s not necessarily bad. Just like peer review in science papers.
Are we best friends now?
Willingness to info dump works wonders in a casual retail sales environment. Customers come up with what they think are silly questions, and I’ll just give them as complete an answer as I can, engaging fully. Vast majority of them are greatly appreciative of it.
A few even come into my store specifically to find and ask me stuff.
Very relatable
Is there anyone here who is a woman who has experienced this?
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Because I’ve noticed, between my husband and I who both have shown symptoms of ADHD, that I’m better able to modulate my tone of voice and have better interpersonal interactions at work, and he has had similar issues to another commenter when speaking to people at work- because he’s technically correct, he doesn’t get in trouble, but he still stirs the pot in ways that make people less willing to work with him because of the tone of condescension he takes on, without him seeming to realize it. My theory is that this is a learned/untrained behavior and is something many women are typically forced to learn to adapt and fix early on.
Edit to add: I just realized you probably didn’t mean my question was a lack of response but rather that no one commented and that was interesting 🤦♀️ whoops 😅
Unsure if I count, non binary but biological women and I have had this terribly bad for all my life
I’ve been trying to relate to a group I’m in and lately it feels like everything I say falls on deaf ears. Or is outright ignored which is the more common outcome. I received some ‘feedback’ and since then it has felt bad. I can’t relate to them in any way so my attempts to bridge that some and seeing them ignored feels extra bad.
I call it geeking out when I do it. Usually a detail I think is amazing requires too much context to understand which I figure out only when I’m explaining the background and people’s eyes glaze over. Then I make jokes that no-one gets like having Superstring Torpedoes in my Star Trek expy card game.
To my observation, the allistic experience is to do the same thing except 1) you simply are immune to self-awareness and 2) the autistic people in your life are interested in hearing about whatever, or they let you know they’re not
That’s because you are not the problem, they are, because thet have no business getting angry or feeling inferior by unassuming individuals in the first place. The fact that they associate being corrected with malice is a moral failing on their part, not on yours for not catering to their feelings. They absolutely would not cater to yours if they were hurting you; instead they’d chastise you for allowing yourself to be affected by others. So do the same to them.
I’m in this picture and I don’t like it
I think this is just people being different and having different expectations of what an exchange should be like. I find myself in this situation pretty often
