• TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world
    44·
    12 days ago

    I think the receptionist is interested but I’m not gonna hit on her at work like a skeevy fuck.

    Seeing someone get hit on is like watching someone take their dick out in public.

  • Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    511·
    11 days ago

    I spent valentines day cranking my hog (literally. I ground pork, and stuffed 25 pounds into casings to make bratwurst.)

    • Hadriscus@lemm.ee
      7·
      11 days ago

      Nice, pâtés galore for next winter. Me, I spent the evening jamming my log. And I don’t own a fireplace…

  • Dvixen@lemmy.world
    13·
    11 days ago

    Dud. After years of having to remind, plan and remind the other half again and again, I gave up and said nothing last year. Nothing happened. Nothing happened again this year. Next up - Mother’s Day, which I expect to be equally nothing, just like last year.

    I can’t wait for the complaints that I planned nothing for birthdays or Father’s Day.

      • Dvixen@lemmy.world
        4·
        11 days ago

        I have, many times, and nothing changes, always an excuse, they forgot or were distracted by something more important. Hence why I have completely given up trying to plan anything. Like talking to a brick wall. Things only happen when I take the initiative. Special days, house repairs, appointments…

    • FrowingFostek@lemmy.world
      4·
      11 days ago

      I’m sorry you’re going through that. I’m currently reforming myself of those same tendencies.

      My excuse was and is money but, it’s only that, an excuse. So I started making construction paper cards and origami flowers. It’s not the flowers and restaurants they used to be but, she seems to appreciate it.

      P.s. the origami lily folds refuse to sink into my smooth brain. I gotta watch the same YT vid Everytime 😞

    • I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world
      26·
      11 days ago

      Maybe recognize that your partner doesn’t ascribe as much meaning to arbitrary dates and that silently expecting them to do something is a toxic mentality. I hope you realize you’re not teaching them any sort of lesson, you are intentionally setting yourself up to be disappointed/upset at your partner for not following the rules of a game they didn’t know you were playing.

      Especially these days. Don’t you think it’s possible they have other things on their mind? I know I do. Between trying to figure out how to pay bills, figuring out how to save a little so we can retire some day, thinking about how stressful my job is, thinking about all the chores that need to be done, worrying about the health of myself and my family, worrying about car/home repairs, keeping insurance/registrations/enrollments/appointments/documents all up to date, and the endless struggle of what we’re having for dinner tonight; there’s just not a whole lot of mental space left for reading my partner’s mind and fulfilling their unspoken expectations.

      You say this has been happening for years. Ever think that it’s just not something that’s going to change? That you’re expecting a fish to climb a tree unprompted and then getting upset with the fish when it doesn’t?

      Grow the fuck up. Be a partner to your partner. How hard is it to say “Hey, I’d like to feel special on Valentine’s Day. It’s important to me.”?

  • nl4real@lemmy.world
    11·
    12 days ago

    For real, how much y’all getting paid? At this point I no longer believe it’s a coincidence with the frequency of these posts.