• BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world
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    11 days ago

    It’s ok,I know what you mean. I would honestly rather not have sex anymore because of my circumstances being very difficult, but if I met someone who was interesting and read books and listened to music and dressed well, and took an interest in me and was happy to see me and make an effort to get to know me, and if he was 20 years younger than me, sure why not? As long as he was a good listener about how I like to do it, because I’m different than other women in how I like to get off.

    But this man has overall been a disaster for me, masquerading as someone good, but just really cut from the same cloth as his malignant narcissist mother, which is pretty bad. He accused me tonight of some things that were pretty ugly, and that’s hard. I’d love to spend some time with someone who actually seemed to like me all of the time. I’m writing this while on my Ambien so it’s hard to articulate.

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      11 days ago

      I haven’t had sex in like four years. Or maybe I stopped counting at four years.

      It’s not like I’d find it hard to pull in this city, but I’m just not interested and in my current situation I don’t really feel like writing up dating adverts.

      I got enough of casual sex in my twenties. As in usually a new partner, so the sex was often pretty shit as I think it takes a few times to learn what your partner likes so you can… harmonise.

      But this man has overall been a disaster for me, masquerading as someone good, but just really cut from the same cloth as his malignant narcissist mother

      I’ve not dated men but I’m do understand the type you’re talking about.

      He accused me tonight of some things that were pretty ugly, and that’s hard.

      Its demeaning and (mildly) traumatising and I’m sure he did it in a way that he reasoned it in some way to make everything implicitly your responsibility as if relationships weren’t two-way.

      I’ll pop an Ambien to that as well. Should do at this point honestly it’s 5.30 am.

      Cheers. It’s just under a different brand name here in Finland.