I don’t think “female” is offensive.

I thought it was offensive because some (supposedly female) users said it was offensive; but I didn’t understand why my female friends used the term (female).

I found another saying that it wasn’t offensive, and I immediate copied that belief.

LGBTQ+ politics is confusing …

  • Torrid
    182 years ago

    I think it’s context, really.

    If you are given a clinical description of someone:

    • blonde
    • female
    • good at math
    • etc…

    Then there’s nothing negative about it. But if you use it in a way that implies or denotes value - objectifies, then it becomes offensive (i think…)

    “What does this female want?” - implies that something about being female changes the speaker’s attitude about the request

    “You’re such a female” - implies femaleness to have expected negative/positive traits that are being used as a blanket assumption for the subject.

    “I chose Joey over the female” - implies that “the female” is less appealing than Joey by virtue of femaleness.

    There is also something arbitrarily negative about using the clinical “female” over the less clinical “woman” or “girl” in these kinds of instances; although either has the potential be equally objectifying, especially if you consider the more abstract concept of “tone” and history of the speaker…

    A lot of it is contextual nuance, and even then not everyone’s feelings on it are the same. To be safe though, I would avoid referring to someone as female unless it’s factually relevant.

    • TmpodMA
      62 years ago

      Great answer. Context, tonality and people’s mood/feelings vary wildly and are fundamental aspects of how someone will take such a thing.
      Your last point is key - when unsure (e.g. not talking to a close friend), choose the most polite words.